Birthdays are special and meant to be enjoyed with the people youlove. It’s also important that whether there’s a big party involved or just a small event, the person whose birthday it is should be having the mostfun. Sometimes, though, entitled guests make things a bit more difficult.
This is what a woman faced after she decided on a lowkey but enjoyable series of events for her 40th birthday party. Unfortunately, her friends didn’t like her ideas and took over the whole occasion, which left her feeling dejected.
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Sometimes, even the best of friends can struggle to tell each other the truth, especially when it has to do with money troubles
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The poster explained that she had been struggling with her business and work for a while, which is why she and her partner had to rein in their expenses
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Her best friends of 10 years had all done big things for their 40th birthdays and it seemed like they wanted to take over her event and convert it into a grand weekend trip
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An important thing to understand is how much the OP valued her closefriendships. She had maintained ties with them for over 10 years and kept meeting them regularly. So they had really strong bonds that she had never questioned before.
According toexperts, before telling anyone about the money troubles you’ve been having, it’s first important to be honest with yourself. If you’re lying or not facing the situation it may only comfort you in the short run but make you miserable later on. It can also make the situation feel incredibly lonely because you don’t want to own up and ask for help.
In this story, unfortunately, the OP’s friends took over the planning very quickly. They decided to do herbirthdayevent as a girls’ weekend away and quickly started looking at flight bookings. It’s obvious that the poster felt bad about how quickly they rejected her idea and she really didn’t want to go through with it because of the excessive costs involved.
In such cases, there are a few things a person could do. They could suggest acheaper alternativethat fits their budget while still being enjoyable for everyone else. Cozy home gatherings and personalized gifts can be a touching way of maintaining connections with people. At the end of the day, your financial goal is of utmost importance and it’s okay to say no to costly events you can’t afford.
The OP also wanted to cancel her friends’ extravagant plan and not have to worry about how much all of it would cost. It hurt her to think they didn’t like her idea and made her feel sad that she couldn’t afford to go at all. All in all, it must have beenembarrassingfor her to figure out what to say to her friends, who were excited and had gotten carried away with enthusiasm.
Hopefully, the OP realizes that her friends care more about her happiness than a random trip they planned. Although it might seem embarrassing for her to reveal her money troubles, it might help strengthen her bond with her besties and make her birthday more enjoyable.
What would you do if you were in her situation? Do you think there’s an easy way out of this dilemma? We’d love to hear your thoughts.
People told the poster to be honest with her friends and to figure out what their true intentions were behind their actions
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