Having a roommate can be both a fun and horrible experience, depending on what kind of person that roommate is. Some people make lifelong friendships with people who live with them. Yet, not everyone is so lucky — some get suchflawed roommatesthat they want to run away from them as quickly as possible.
Like today’s OP, who got an autistic roommate. The autism wasn’t the problem, but her using it as an excuse to not do chores she used to do very successfully before was. And so, the unwillingness to be a caretaker for someone else quickly drove the woman out of the room.
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While some people end up with amazing roommates who end up being lifelong friends, others aren’t that lucky
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The roommate expected the woman to do all the chores for her, like picking up her clothes, cooking, and cleaning
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But she, knowing the girl used to do it all herself before everyone started coddling her, refused to do so
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Today’s OP is a college student who lived in a room with an autistic roommate, dubbed Sarah in the story.Autismis a lifelong neurological and developmental disorder that typically affects how people communicate, learn, and behave. It is known to be a spectrum, as there are many variations of symptoms people can experience.
Since Sarah is on the spectrum, many people incollege, including professors, gave her special treatment. Also, they expected her roommate to be the caregiver.
The problem for the woman arose when Sarah started acting like she needed a caretaker as well. She started leaving clothes everywhere and asked the OP tocookfor her and clean up after her. Anytime the OP confronted her about it, she used autism as an excuse.
As we emphasized before, this disorder is a spectrum, whichmeansthat some autistic individuals need help in their daily lives nearly all the time, but some just need occasional help, and others can live fully independently.
Patienceand compassion can also be needed when interacting with an autistic individual. Some of them might struggle with identifying certain social norms, which can result in some unconventional situations. So, being compassionate and guiding them throughlife,which is already hard enough for a neurotypical person who doesn’t have a disorder, is something everyone should strive to do.
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This resulted in backlash from many people in her life. So, the woman turned to Reddit to ask the good old question: “Am I the jerk?” And the majority ofpeoplethere answered that she was not. They understood where the author was coming from and didn’t blame her for refusing to be a caretaker for a person she was assigned to live with.
A bit later, in the edit of the post, the original poster revealed that she, in fact, got another room. Ironically, of all the people who yapped about how the author should be helping Sarah, none of them wanted to be her replacement roommate. This just shows how simple it is to tell people what to do when you don’t have to do it yourself, doesn’t it?
Yet people online didn’t agree with this sentiment and dubbed everyone else in the story jerks
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