Whenever my wife needs to call on some official matter, we have already developed a tradition – I dial the number, start a conversation, and when it comes to details, I hand the phone to her. Most likely, this is a kind of manifestation of social anxiety, but for me it’s not a problem to do this on a regular basis.
But for the hero of our story today,the user u/Then_Cupcake_4847, a similar request from his 15-year-old daughter became a problem that subsequently led to much family drama. At the same time, the man himself was sincerely confident that he hadn’t done anything wrong – and even took it online to vent about it.
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The author of the post has a 15-year-old daughter who has social anxiety
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Sometimes the girl stays home alone and her parents just leave her some money to order food
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One day the girl wanted to order pizza while alone but the local service didn’t take online orders
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So the girl texted her dad asking him to call for pizza instead of her, but the man refused, considering it just a whim
So, the Original Poster (OP) lives with his wife and 15-year-old daughter, and the girl stays home alone from time to time. Theparentsleave money for their daughter for this occasion, so that she canorder foodfor herself at any time. Or buy groceries to make herself dinner.
The whole problem is that the girl has social anxiety and, although the doctors say that she does not need meds now, making a regular phone call is a real problem for her. However, online ordering for delivery rules as usual.
The next day, the daughter attacked her father with reproaches and, which upset the man even more, his wife joined in these reproaches, claiming that it cost him nothing to make just one call. Well, the author of the post seemed to consider it just his daughter’s whim, nothing more.
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Moreover, SAD is equally common among men and women and typically begins around age 13. And one of the obvious manifestations ofthis problemamong adolescents and young adults is phone anxiety. On the one hand, this is due to the fact that in the 21st century, instant messengers and texting are becoming increasingly widespread, and on the other hand, a phone conversation initially carries a not very healthy mental charge.
“All we have is the voice,”The Cut quotesAlison Papadakis, a clinical psychology professor at Johns Hopkins University who studies stress. “So that can be a bit nerve-racking for people. <…> You can kind of correct yourself and take things back, but not in the same way, because it’s already out there.” In other words, this is, in any case, not a substitute for full-fledged communication.
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