Parents play a big role in their children’slives, but a bad parent can do more harm than good. Absentee or neglectful parents will make their kids everyone else’s problem and shirk responsibility whenever they can. This makes it harder on the people in their lives who have to pick up the slack.
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One day, her brother called to say he was leaving the kids with her, she told him that she had other plans and was already driving to pick up a friend, but he persisted
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Even though she threatened to call the police, 15 minutes later, she got a notification and saw through her Ring doorbell camera that the kids were waiting at her doorstep
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Eventually, when she got back to the children and called the police, they involved CPS in the matter, who took custody of the kids till their parents could be contacted
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The woman’s brother lost custody of his kids on 3 counts of child endangerment
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5 months later, the 23YO became a guardian to her nieces and nephews
He did not care about what she had planned for the day and demanded that she watch thekids. After some back and forth, she warned him that she would call the police if he left them with her. The guy did not heed her warning and abandoned his little ones on her doorstep. The only way she got to know about it was when she received a notification from her Ring doorbell camera. The woman panicked and decided to call the police as soon as she reached back.
His disregard for the people around him and the fact that he didn’t care about the safety of his children shows howneglectfulhe was. The woman was right to involve the police so that they could report the case to CPS (although not from the U.S, the poster mentioned that they have an equivalent government body). TheChild Protective Servicesgets involved if neglect or abuse is suspected. It can be for many reasons, such as failure to provide adequate care or not taking responsibility for the children, which are all things OP’s brother and his wife did.
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Luckily, OP decided to become a guardian to her niece and nephews and look after them. She told netizens: “They are absolutely no burden to me at all, I love the 3 of them. It has never felt like I lost anything. It was overwhelming at first with all the CPS stuff and paperwork, but I have never doubted that I gained something from taking them in and I hope they did too.”
It might be difficult for a 23-year-old to look after such young kids, but she mentioned: “I do have help. I have mypartnerof 4 years who is great with them and my grandpa who now lives 10 minutes away who loves his grandbabies. I have been thinking it through; even if I was all alone, no one to help me, I would still have taken them in. It was mostly an adjustment period that was hard. It’s better now [and] they are very well behaved considering their ages.”
This is the best possible outcome of the whole situation. The children now have a safe place to live in and grow.Researchshows that the negative effect of neglect can be reversed or reduced through timely intervention. But simply removing the kids from a toxic environment isn’t enough, it’s also important to get therapeutic support.
Although it might not be ideal for children to be separated from their parents, it’s good that these little ones were taken away from a possibly abusive household. The young woman showed a lot of bravery in the situation and took 3 children under her wing. People were proud of her actions and could not believe her brother’s audacity. Do you think this situation could have been avoided in any way? Feel free to share your thoughts.
Netizens stood up for the poster and told her she was right to call the police, it was likely there was much more happening for the kids to have been taken away from the couple
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