Tension inrelationshipsbetween ex-spouses can run high. It doesn’t help when one of the exes goes out of their way to overstep boundaries that have supposedly been agreed upon, especially when there are kids involved.
One woman reached her limit after her ex-husband took his new girlfriend and his kids to the family beach house, going against her specific instructions not to. Fed up with his abhorrent behavior, she took to the web to vent.
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Relationships between co-parents can be rocky, but this woman’s ex-husband was determined to make things even more unpleasant for her and her kids
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Despite her asking him not to take his new girlfriend to the family beach house they co-own, he not only did so but also brought their unwilling kids along
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To make sure the kids wouldn’t let their mom know, the ex-husband barred them from calling her for 48 hours
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When the woman visited the beach house, she noticed her ex-husband’s new girlfriend had taken it upon herself to reorganize all of her stuff
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The woman’s linen closet and wardrobe had been repacked, her bed had been slept in, and even her tampons had been moved
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Infuriated, the woman took to the web to ask whether she was being unreasonable in finding the situation massively creepy and intrusive
She then tells the readers that she bought her ex out of the family home last year, which placed a great deal offinancialpressure on her, but that the ex-couple still co-owns abeachhouse that’s about to be listed for sale.
She then goes on to explain that she’s never taken her new partner to the beachhouse, since she views it as having been a family home, and taking new partners there would be disrespectful. Despite this, her ex nagged her about taking his new girlfriend there. Sick of his whining, she told him he could go, as long as they stayed out of her bed and didn’t bring the kids along.
Well, a month later, not only did he bring his new girlfriend to the beach house, but he brought the kids along too. In an attempt to cover his tracks, he even barred the kids from calling OP for 48 hours. Since then, he’s been taking his new girlfriend there regularly and, despite OP’s wishes, sleeping in her bed.
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In herarticlefor Divorce.com, Brette Sember writes that, according to the U.S.Census, over 25% of children live with just one parent at a time, meaning that more than a few American adults are forced to deal with co-parenting.
If your co-parent is toxic, some warning signs to watch for include not putting your child’s best interests first and refusing to follow a schedule. They might also talk negatively about you to your child, make decisions about your child without you, and be hostile or abusive.
In herarticlefor Choosing Therapy, Kaytee Gillis shares 10 tips for co-parenting with a toxic ex. A few of these include setting realistic boundaries, prioritizing self-care, modeling compassion, following court orders exactly, eliminating unnecessary communication, and using court-recommended apps to communicate.
Based on what OP tells us in her post, it seems as though her ex-husband doesn’t understand the first thing about boundaries. Hopefully, the beach house will be sold before things get any more unpleasant.
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