Anydivorceof parents always becomes a tough mental challenge for children, especially for older ones among the siblings. However, many psychologists are pretty sure that it’s still better than living in a toxic atmosphere with a “full-fledged” family.
Well, the parents of the useru/SeaworthinessOdd2477, the author of today’s story, divorced as well – but the father, as the teen later realized, also began to look for benefits for himself from his eldest son’s visits. Okay, let’s just take things in order and go on reading.
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The author of the post is a 16 year-old boy whose parents divorced years ago and his dad lives with another family
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The father also has 2 stepchildren, both younger than the author, and he recently asked his son to start cooking for them
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The point is that the boy recently told his dad that he cooks for his siblings when his mom is at work, so the dad decided to take this chance too
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However, the man faced a flat-out ‘no’ because the author claimed that he doesn’t consider the father’s stepkids his family
The man even tried to guilt the son into cooking for his stepkids, but to no avail – and the boy’s mom also sided with him
So, the Original Poster (OP) is 16 years old, he has a younger brother and sister, but his fatherdivorcedtheir mom and went to live with another family. There he has two stepchildren – both younger than the author, and from time to time our hero comes to visit his bio dad and spend time with them.
And so one fine day, the father literally demanded that the OP makefoodfor the younger stepsiblings while in his house. The thing is that the author himself admitted that he sometimescooksfor his brother and sister, thus helping his mom. And the dad almost immediately decided that he could use the services of a “free cook” too.
It came to a direct conflict with the author’s mom, who directly told her ex to simply cherish the time spent with his son and nothing more. Especially since he had already decided not to retain 50/50 custody. But the man just told her to shut up. And then he even accused the OP of favoritism towards his blood brothers and sisters.
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According to the expert, adults should not try to expand their area of responsibility to children, and especially not try to shift their own parental responsibilities onto them. “This teenager already has the responsibility of helping his mom with his younger brothers and sisters, with whom he lives under the same roof – and making him to cook for his father’s stepchildren looks completely inappropriate. Trying to solve his own problems at the expense of the child – this is not good at all.”
Still, the original poster deserves credit for his poise and composure. Qualities that are not always typical of teenagers, let’s admit it. “I’m nevertheless glad that this boy acted very smart and mature – he didn’t succumb to provocations from his father, calmly explained his position. In the end, no one could force him to love his biological father’s stepkids. And if such reactions from the father continue, it’s worth taking some legal action,” Irina sums up.
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