I have already written more than once or twice that almost any wedding becomes one of the most important days in the bride’s life, but at the same time, it’s also one of the most stressful days. Precisely taking into account its importance. Because you want the wedding to be perfect, memorable for a long time… and sometimes this actually happens, but there are different reasons to remember the wedding for years.
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The author of the post recently attended her cousin’s wedding and some real drama unfolded there
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The bride set several clauses which seemed unreasonable to the groom’s relatives. For instance, the author had to go without her longtime boyfriend
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Another rule for the guests was a ‘black tie’ dress code – so all the groom’s relatives complied, showing up in suits and posh dresses
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However, the bride’s folks arrived in jeans and casual maxi dresses, while the bride herself wore just a midi white lacy dress
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For example, the bride demanded a child-free wedding, which was something unimaginable for the groom’s relatives, who have Albanian roots (the truth is – as a person originally from Eastern Europe, I can confirm that a wedding without the presence ofkidsis not a wedding at all!), and also stated that any +1 should be approved with her.
Thus, thelong-term boyfriendand future husband of the author (and she’s the groom’s cousin) found himself left out of the upcoming wedding, even though he was essentially a member of the family, and for much longer than the bride-to-be. Of course, the OP’s mood was already ruined long before the wedding day… And then there was the strict black tie dress code for guests.
Well, a dress code is just a dress code, the groom’s relatives obviously thought – and everyone showed up in formal suits and lavish dresses. Imagine their surprise when guests from the bride’s side began to arrive one after another in jeans and flannel shirts, and their wives simply wore casualmaxi dresses. The icing on the cake was the bride’s dress – a white knee-length lace dress from H&M. And now almost any woman from the groom’s side seemed to completely outshine her.
The bride herself became gloomier and more sarcastic with each passing minute. It got to the point that she called the groom’s elegant and beautiful sister “similar to a high-end escort.” Fortunately, the woman showed miracles of patience and did not throw a tantrum right at the wedding table. But the original poster could not endure it.
The author publicly asked the bride to chill out, and when she responded that the groom’s side didn’t show her enough respect, the OP threw it right in her face that it’s not really that difficult toupstagethe bride here, if only because she wore an ordinary casual dress.
A real scandal broke out, the groom is angry with the OP for completely ruining his wife’s mood, and now she is taking it out on him. Numerous relatives and friends of the author, both those present at the wedding and those absent, on the contrary, say that she did nothing reprehensible.
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“It’s a really difficult situation – on the one hand, the guest clearly and completely ruined the wedding for the bride, on the other hand, the bride and her relatives obviously showed disrespect for the groom’s culture,” says Denis Tsikanovsky, awedding hostfrom Tel-Aviv, Israel, whomBored Pandaasked for a comment on this situation. “In any case, the wedding is a two-way street, so you always need to take into account the cultural aspects of both the groom and the bride – if, of course, there is some difference there.”
The opinions of commenters on the original post were also very divided. Some are almost sure that the author was absolutely right when she expressed her opinion to the bride’s face. After all, if you write ‘black tie’ on your wedding invitation and the guests strictly comply with this code, then what kind of disrespect can there be against them? “Bride overdid it, is unreasonable, and just plain old mean. I feel sorry for your cousin having to live with that,” one of the commenters claimed.
The commenters’ opinions were divided here, but most people agreed that the ‘black tie’ code sounds 100% unequivocally wrong
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