When kids are growing up, the whole world is a big blot of confusion for them. And adjusting to new things can be pretty challenging. Especially with an introduction to a newparent, their tender age might cause trouble with such a massive change in their lives.
So, it was but natural forMinimum_Succotash526to not immediately accept his new dad and things escalated when the stepfather repeatedly insisted that he wanted to adopt the teen poster and even brought up his late dad. Well, it didn’t go down well with the guy.
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Teen has two fathers but one of them passed away just a month before he was born and he grew up with his cherished memories
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Fortunately, he has names of both the fathers on his birth certificate and received a lot of love from the family as their son
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His biological dad married Sam when the kid was 12 years old and the relationship that he has with the stepfather was kind of weird as he always insisted on adopting him
He kept bringing up his late dad thinking that he would win over the teen, but the guy didn’t want Sam to adopt him as he still loved his late father and knew how much he had wanted him
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Today, we’ll dive into the life of the 16-year-old original poster (OP) and the conflict he got stuck in with his stepdad. He provides us with a little background info that he calls his biological father “dad” and his other father “daddy”. And their surrogate was daddy’s close friend, Aunt Giga. Sadly, daddy passed away just a month before he was born.
But that didn’t stop dad from sharing his memories with the kid, and he was brought up with tons of memories about daddy that he truly cherished. And fortunately, both his fathers had their names on his birth certificate after a fight in the court. He always received a lot of love from theirfamilynot just as his biological dad’s kid but the other man’s too.
Now, fast forward to when he was 4 years of age, his dad started dating a guy called Sam, but 3 months into the relationship he realized that he was not yet ready to be in one. And even Sam was acting all jealous that he was not introduced as another dad for thekid. Although things ended then, they reconnected after 4 years and tied the knot when OP was 12.
Well, the teen’s bond with the new partner was not how Sam wanted it to be. To put it rather harshly, Sam was obsessed with adopting him. But the teen was against this as he couldn’t imagine being with him if he was orphaned. And this didn’t sit well with Sam who kept on bringing up daddy, claiming that he was not even his biological father and it was a miracle that his name was on OP’s birth certificate.
But what really disgusted theteenwas when Sam said, “At least you’ll know me while daddy is someone who’s just saintly in your mind because you weren’t allowed to process only having one parent.” Ouch! It’s like he was trying to hit the poster right where it hurt.
First of all, let’s talk about the pain of losing a parent. According toPsychology Today, “About five percent of young people lose a parent before reaching adulthood. Early parental loss is associated with negative outcomes includinganxiety,depression, prolonged grief reactions, negative effects on sense of self, and changes to how survivors approach adult relationships.”
But Sam is neither respecting OP’s boundaries nor is he letting the whole thing drop. In fact, he’s repeatedly trying to take his daddy’s place and even keeps bringing him up constantly in a disrespectful manner.Researchsuggests that you shouldn’t criticize a parent and no stepkid would appreciate it and it would just ruin their relationship.
Netizens backed up the teen for being noble and thinking about his dad’s happiness and also called out the stepdad for enforcing a bond with him
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