Different people have various opinions about the so-called “parent-child problem.” Some say that there is a critical difference in how different generations perceive life. Some people think that these are just isolated cases, and there is no general trend here.
Well, we’ve actually gathered here now not to discuss social issues in contemporary society, but simply to get acquainted with this story fromthe user u/Exact_Meet6470, whose daughter recently gave her mother a real surprise.
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The new mom quit high school, found a part-time job and has been living with her parents since
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However, recently the girl told her parents she’s pregnant again – and the dad is that very same dude!
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The parents refused to house them this time – and the daughter bashed them for doing so
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The author’s in-laws claimed that she and her spouse will later regret this decision, but the couple’s adamant
The new mom said that in the current situation she wasn’t ready to continue studying in high school, but her parents strongly recommended that she at least find some part-time job. In any case, for the next four years, Josie and her son lived in their parents’ house – until a new, unexpected situation happened.
At this point, the OP and her husband’s patience simply ran out, and they said that they were not ready to completely sacrifice their future lives, raising their daughter’s two kids. The parents suggested that the girl discuss options for living together with the children’s dad, but she said that the guy wasn’t ready for this, neither financially nor morally.
The following weeks for the author of the post turned into a real branch of hell on earth – with constant quarrels with their daughter, discussions of options for further events with their own parents, in-laws… and even the parents of the hapless daddy. The only ones who offered the option to house Josie and the kids were the OP’s in-laws, but the girl didn’t like this option.
According to Josie, her grandparents live far from the city where the father of her kids lives, and she wants him to have the opportunity to regularly see his offspring. In any case, now Josie is giving her parents the silent treatment, and the OP’s in-laws believe that she and her husband are reacting ‘too harshly’ and that in the future they will regret actually ‘abandoning their daughter and grandkids.’ So the question arises – should love for our adult children be totally unconditional, and if so, to what extent?
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Aswe’ve mentioned many times in previous posts, the share of American adults today who live under the same roof with their parents is the highest since WWII, and this is likely causing a lot of intergenerational conflict as well. But in this particular situation, the opinions of commenters were almost unanimous.
Well, parents and adult children really have many conflicts, which, alas, significantly darken their future lives. As it was, for example, in this post of oursabout a 20 Y.O. hiding her pregnancy from her father, expecting him to let them all live in his house. In this particular case nearly all commentators are almost sure that the original poster is right. So what do you think about all this?
Almost all the commenters unanimously supported the author and her husband, saying that it should be a life lesson for their daughter
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