Parentingis no walk in the park. It takes love, time, effort,patienceand, of course, lots and lots of money. A recent studyputsthe average cost of raising a child from birth to age 18 at close to $240,000. And then there’s college.Should you decide to fund your kid’s tertiary tuition and extras, it could set you back hundreds of thousands of dollars more.

One single momsharedhow she’s made many sacrifices over the years to save for her daughter’s college fund. Only for her daughter to threaten to cut contact contact with her once she starts studying. The mother is now considering keeping all the money, and spending it on herself and her son. But she’s not sure if she should.Bored Pandaspoke to analyst and finance writer, Chip Lupo, fromWalletHubfor their take on the matter.

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The mom and daughter both agree on the importance of education, and the daughter has always dreamed of going to a prestigious college

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Their relationship became strained after the daughter started dating a new guy, and now her college fund is at stake

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Tertiary tuition doesn’t come cheap, no matter where you choose to study

Student loandebt in the United States totals $1,753 trillion. And over 43 million people have student loans to pay off. Recent datashowsthat “the average public university student borrows $32,362 to attain a bachelor’s degree.” It’s a lot of money to pay back once, and if, you start working.

Given those figures, it should come as no surprise that higher education is expensive. According tothisreport, the average annual cost of tuition and fees nowadays is just over $42,000 at private colleges, almost $20,000 for out-of-state students at public universities and close to $11,000 for in-state students at public schools in America.

But if you’re considering a prestigious university like Princeton or Harvard, you’ll be charged around $60,000 annually. And that’s just for fees. The total is actually closer to $95,000 a year when you factor in other expenses like housing, food and books.

“This significant investment often leads to substantial student loan debt,” said WalletHub analyst and writer, Chip Lupo during our chat. “Financial literacy remains a pressing issue, too, as nearly half of students think  their education lacks adequate personal finance training, which compounds their stress over future debt and job security.”

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A few universities and colleges consistently come out as the “cream of the crop”

But that doesn’t mean you should discredit colleges. “There are still tons of high-ranking colleges, which offer their own advantages like smaller class sizes, more personalized learning and often safer campuses,” added Lipo.

Daughter Threatens To Go No-Contact With Mom, Is Shocked When Her College Fund Disappears

Experts are divided on whether prestigious colleges and universities are really worth the hefty price tag

Bill Coplin is aProfessor of Policy Studies at Syracuse University. He believes the main advantage ofIvy Leagueor name-brand schools is “you get to network withrich studentsand their parents.” And says the skill development is no better or “maybe worse” than other higher learning institutions.

“One of my graduates sent me an email telling me that the Harvard graduate who was hired when he was did not know how to run a copy machine. This may be a mundane skill but others like using Excel may not be there either,” said Coplin.

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The daughter might still have options, should she decide to follow through on her no-contact threat

Paying your way through college without your parents’ help is no easy task. But if Ella’s heart is set on a prestigious place of study, all is not lost. “Most Ivy League schools provide generous financial aid packages to low-income students. Many students do not pay the sticker price,” revealed Robinson.

Ella could look into things like federal financial aid, scholarships, grants or student loans. “Scholarships and grants are ideal as they don’t require repayment,” recommended Lupo during our chat.”Work-study programs offer income without heavy time commitments, and part-time jobs can also provide supplemental income. Student loans are another option, though it’s wise to consider federal loans first, as they tend to offer better rates and repayment options.” Lupo also suggestedattending community college for the first year or two, saying it can “significantly lower costs before transferring to a four-year institution”.

Daughter Threatens To Go No-Contact With Mom, Is Shocked When Her College Fund Disappears

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“She can’t have both”: Some netizens rallied behind the mom, saying her daughter needs to learn about consequences

Daughter Threatens To Go No-Contact With Mom, Is Shocked When Her College Fund Disappears

Daughter Threatens To Go No-Contact With Mom, Is Shocked When Her College Fund Disappears

Daughter Threatens To Go No-Contact With Mom, Is Shocked When Her College Fund Disappears

Daughter Threatens To Go No-Contact With Mom, Is Shocked When Her College Fund Disappears

Daughter Threatens To Go No-Contact With Mom, Is Shocked When Her College Fund Disappears

Some netizens said more info was needed to make a decision, while others  felt both the mom and daughter were in the wrong

Daughter Threatens To Go No-Contact With Mom, Is Shocked When Her College Fund Disappears

Daughter Threatens To Go No-Contact With Mom, Is Shocked When Her College Fund Disappears

Daughter Threatens To Go No-Contact With Mom, Is Shocked When Her College Fund Disappears

Daughter Threatens To Go No-Contact With Mom, Is Shocked When Her College Fund Disappears

Daughter Threatens To Go No-Contact With Mom, Is Shocked When Her College Fund Disappears

Daughter Threatens To Go No-Contact With Mom, Is Shocked When Her College Fund Disappears

Daughter Threatens To Go No-Contact With Mom, Is Shocked When Her College Fund Disappears

Daughter Threatens To Go No-Contact With Mom, Is Shocked When Her College Fund Disappears

In an update, the mom said she’d decided to keep the money aside while she tries to “talk things out” with her daughter

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