It’s impossible to be in a great mood 100% of the time. If you’re hungry, exhausted or had a stressful day at work, it might be a bit more challenging to put on a happy face and be patient with yourloved ones. But these bad days should be rare occurrences, not the norm.
This father decided that it would be wise to start warning his kids when their mother was in a bad mood
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But she was not amused when she found out what was going on behind her back
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Later, the dad clarified how often his wife has bad days
Being unable to manage frustrations in a healthy way is a clear sign that a person could benefit from professional help
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“We all feel irritable sometimes, but if you can’t manage yourfrustrationsin a healthy way, without damaging your relationships with the most important people in your life — your partner and your children — that is a clear signal that you could benefit from support,” the expert says.
“I can’t tell you how often is too often to snap at your family members or otherwise take out your bad day on them, but when it becomes a pattern, something needs to change,” she added. “This mother’s irritability is clearly a pattern. It’s so predictable that they’ve developed a system for managing it!”
“When you’re walking on eggshells, you’re unable or unwilling to express your true thoughts and feelings”
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“When you’re walking on eggshells, you’re unable or unwilling to express your true thoughts and feelings because you’re afraid of the reaction you’ll get from your partner,” she explained. “It’s the opposite of vulnerability, authenticity, and emotional intimacy — it’s working hard to control the situation in an attempt to manage your partner’s moods for them. In the process, you’re abandoning yourself and disregarding your own feelings.”
“If they carry these lessons forward into their adult relationships, they may have trouble setting boundaries, they may struggle with codependent tendencies, and they may even tolerate emotional abuse,” she added.
“Getting to the root of what’s really going on is important”
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The expert also recommends that the mother start seeing a therapist. “I would hope that learning about her family’s efforts to accommodate her bad moods would motivate her to get support. A good counselor could help her explore the roots of her anger and find healthier ways to manage her feelings,” she explained.
Most readers agreed that both spouses should be acting more maturely, with some suggesting they seek professional help
However, some readers sympathized with the dad and shared advice for him
And others thought that the father was definitely in the wrong
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