Living under the same roof with adult children, or at least teenagers, is a real test for parents. Suffice it to rememberthis mom, who once issued an ultimatumto her household, refusing to do anything around the house until they cleaned up the pigsty that had been made in the house during just a few days of her absence on a business trip. And there are actually many such stories.
The author of the post is a 54 Y.O. divorced man and he has a 19 Y.O. daughter
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This summer the girl stayed at dad’s house recovering from her knee surgery
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One day the man found an open package of tampons in the bathroom and asked his daughter to always throw them into the trash bin
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However, the daughter said that she flushes them into the toilet, arguing that her dad understands nothing about tampons
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Then the man told her there are numerous notices in public places urging people to act exactly as he says
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It all ended in the dad saying the daughter would pay the plumber bill if the drain gets clogged
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The daughter got offended and said that the dad was acting just like her mom
So, the Original Poster (OP) is 54 years old, divorced from his wife, and this summer, before heading off to college, his 19-year-old daughter spent a few weeks at her dad’s house recovering from knee surgery. In his own words, dad helped his daughter with food, icing, transportation and whatnot.
It should be noted here that in recent years, the girl mainly lived with her mother, so sharing one roof with an already adult daughter became a real test for the man. For example, regarding sanitary tampons. One day, going into the bathroom, the author of the post found an open package of tampons there. During the conversation, it turned out that the girl was flushing the used hygiene products into the toilet, and her father gently asked her not to do that again.
Firstly, right next to the toilet in the bathroom there was a large trash can without a lid, literally at arm’s length, so there is no problem in throwing a tampon there. Secondly, the original poster has heard more than once how tampons and other hygiene products clog the drains – so in almost any public place, there are notices in the toilets asking you to throw everything in the trash bin.
Of course, the girl did not listen to her dad, and a heated debate broke out between them, with the daughter’s main argument being “you’re a man and you don’t understand anything about tampons!” To this, the OP quite reasonably objected that he understands plumber bills well, and that the authors of the mentioned notices in multiple public places probably understand both the first and the second.
Word for word – and the man issued a real ultimatum to his daughter. If she wants to keep throwing her tampons down the toilet, let her do it. But if as a result the plumbing system gets clogged, then she, and only she, will have to pay the plumber bill. The girl, of course, got offended and finally told her father that he was being “just like mom.”
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Okay, let’s ask firsthand. In the process of preparing this post, I decided to clarify the facts from three sources at once: my wife, a plumber I know personally, and directly reading the instructions on the boxes of tampons.
The results were quite predictable: my wife said that she always throws sanitary products in the trash bin, and the packaging of three of the four different brands of tampons that I looked at in the nearest store (perhaps I looked pretty weird – a middle-aged man in spectacles carefully reading the tiny letters on the box with tampons, but anyway…) read that you should not flush tampons down the toilet.
“It seems to me that the main issue here is not so much hygiene, but an unconscious desire to resist the father’s demands,” says Irina Matveeva, apsychologist and certified NLP specialist, whomBored Pandaalso asked for a comment here. “After all, nineteen years is literally the height of the period of growing up, and sometimes even the most innocent requests from parents are often met with obvious rejection from their growing children.”
“Plus, you need to take into account that the parents, apparently, have been divorced for a long time, and the girl mainly lived with her mother. Subconsciously, this may also have some influence on her perception of her dad’s words, no matter how good their relationship was. However, the latter remark about the fact that dad is behaving exactly like mom seems to bring us back to the issue of hygiene…” Irina smiles.
However, commenters unanimously sided with the author, stating that they also try to always throw their hygiene products in the trash
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