It’s hard to imagine being left out of an important event like awedding, especially when it’s your own mother tying the knot. But, well, welcome to the world of family dynamics, where financial practicality often rules over love and tradition.
Today’s Original Poster (OP) was in such a situation when after dropping everything to care for her aging mother who had pneumonia, was not invited to her mother’s wedding for financial reasons.
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Have you ever wondered what it would feel like if you weren’t invited to a family member’s wedding?
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The author’s elderly mother is getting married, although she already made it clear that she doesn’t want to spend any money on a wedding
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Her mother fell sick, but the author and her sister dropped everything just to take care of her while balancing taking care of their own kids
By the time the mother felt a lot better, the wedding was set to happen, but she and her sister were still not invited to the wedding
Then her mom got very sick.Pneumonialanded her in the hospital, and all of a sudden everything else had to take a backseat. The partner’s daughter wasn’t available because she had her own family problems, but the OP and her sister dropped everything, juggling work and three children each, to sit with her while she was ill.
But even after her mother got better, the wedding plans still didn’t move forward. The wedding was postponed, but the OP was still not invited.
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Love and marriage can be beautiful at any age, but tying the knot later in life often comes with financial complexities. AsFYI 50+points out, whether marriage makes economic sense depends on the couple’s unique circumstances. For older couples—like the one in this story—practical concerns such as taxes, inheritance, and financial obligations often outweigh sentimentality.
This focus on practicality is common in later-life weddings. According toShine, these ceremonies tend to be more intimate, centered on the couple’s commitment rather than grand celebrations.
Many older couples personalize their weddings, deciding how much, if at all, family and friends will be involved. In this case, the couple’s decision reflects that mindset—prioritizing meaning overtraditionwithout diminishing the significance of the moment.
Netizens sympathized with the OP’s feelings, acknowledging how hurtful it must be to be excluded from her mother’s wedding. Others suggested finding a compromise, like joining the meal at their own expense or planning a separate celebration later.
On the other hand, several people felt her mother’s approach was practical rather than personal. They emphasized that at their age, her mother and her partner had every right to do what was easiest for them and urged the woman to respect their wishes rather than take it as a slight.
What do you think about this situation? Do you think the OP’s mother is being reasonable, or is she sending a hurtful message to her children? We would love to know your thoughts!
Netizens acknowledged that she did have the right to be upset, but they also urged her to take her mother’s wishes into consideration
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