Literature and cinema teach us nobility – not to finish off a fallen enemy, not to respond to a vile blow with a blow, not to imitate the despicable deeds ofentitled people. But real life, unfortunately, is not literature at all, and everything is much more complicated here. And much dirtier, too.
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The author of the post has a husband, whose 60YO uncle is a very entitled and overstepping person
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The uncle and his wife, who are also the husband’s godparents, had been behaving quite inappropriately in recent years
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The author told this to her spouse but they decided not to expose the uncle to their family – just went no contact with him
But recently the woman got an angry call from the aunt, bashing her for being “rude and impolite” – and started considering unveiling the truth anyway
So, the Original Poster (OP) has a husband and akid. And the husband, in turn, has a godfather, who is also his uncle. This uncle is about 60 years old, and he and his wife, as our heroine notes, have always been overstepping and quite entitled. So over time, the spouses came to the sound idea of keeping these relatives at a distance.
For example, one visit a year, at Christmas or some important holiday, is quite enough. The OP and her spouse, after all, are quite polite and well-mannered people. Unlike manyfamily memberson the husband’s side, who are not averse to abusing booze and making hasty and not always justified conclusions.
When the OP got indignant and demanded that he delete the nude pic message and never send her such a thing again, he did as she asked, but he then sarcastically added that he was leaving the rest to her imagination…
Of course, the author told her husband about this prank, at which he was obviously damn furious. However, the couple decided not to disclose this story – after all, it was probably an accident. They simply stopped communicating with the uncle and his wife.
And then, after some time, our heroine received an angry call from her auntie. She slated the author for “being extremely rude and impolite” for not having invited her and her husband over for quite a long time. And our heroine simply listened to her aunt’s fuming screams and wondered whether she should unveil the true reason for them going no contact…
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“Most likely, this was indeed a deliberate provocation on the part of the uncle – and his comment after deleting the photo only confirms this,” says Irina Matveeva, apsychologistand certified NLP specialist, with whomBored Pandagot in touch for a comment on this case. “And this woman, of course, made the only right decision in that situation.”
“But then, when they didn’t make this fact public, I’m not sure that they did the right thing. Noble – yes, without any doubt. But such kind of people often don’t understand and don’t perceive nobility. I think if this woman hadn’t demanded that theprovocative messagebe deleted immediately, they’d have immediately started badmouthing her behind her back.”
“And now, I suppose, it’s time to tell the relatives about the uncle’s inappropriate behavior. At least his wife, at the very least. On the other hand, it’s quite possible that they will call it a fake or a provocation – and will start scolding the spouses with even greater force… Dealing withentitled people, you never know what to expect,” Irina summarizes.
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