Ideally, people havekidsonce they’re emotionally and financially ready. However, the reality is often very different, as many unprepared teens have to deal with pregnancy. In fact, in 2020, females aged 15-19gave birthto 158,000 babies in the U.S.
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12 years later, she started wondering whether he should know he had a son
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She did tell him, and she gave more details about her conversation with the father’s current wife
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Keeping a child a secret from the biological father is not illegal, but it’s still morally ambiguous
The user u/Asleep-Ad-8496 detailed a very personal but ultimately wholesome story. We don’t often see stories of teen pregnancy and adoption where there’s very little drama and all the characters get along in the end. But that’s what happened in this case.
Still, many people pointed out that it was his choice to make, not hers.Legally, it’s not a crime not to tell a man about his biological child. Sometimes, women do so out of fear for her or the child’s safety. Other times, they assume the father might not want anything to do with the child.
Such a decision can backfire easily. Primarily, the child loses out on having a relationship with their father and an important parent figure. On a more material front, they don’t get the father’s financial support throughout their life and miss out oninheritancerights.
However, that doesn’t really apply to this story, as u/Asleep-Ad-8496 choseadoption. Her son grew up with friends of her parents as his mom and dad, a couple who, at the time of his birth, couldn’t conceive themselves.
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A new surprise sibling can cause a strain between a father and his other children
There is one other important element in this story: the biological father’s other children. The eldest, it turns out, is the godson of the OP and her husband. “He lived with us for about a year when he was 2,” the womanwrotein a comment.
The son’s biological mother is out of the picture. “She cheated then left everything behind including their son. When B went back into rehab my husband and I took care of their son,” u/Asleep-Ad-8496detailedin another comment.
Experts say that it’s important that the child doesn’t feel neglected once a new sibling enters the picture. The dad will be building a relationship with the child he knows nothing about. But to preserve a good relationship with his middle child, he must spend quality one-on-one time with him.
Knowing that your parent still loves you “allows kids to relax a little bit, and they’re maybe less in a competitive mode with their stepsiblings and more open to bonding,” Larry Ganong, an emeritus professor of Human Development and Family Science at the University of Missouri,toldNPR.
People had mixed reactions: some bashed her for the “selfish” decision, while others empathized that such a situation is hard on a teenager
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