Helping during a crisis, bailing them out during a bad patch of life, or simply being with them when they need someone: the things we do for family! As we love them wholeheartedly, we promise them everything that they want. But what happens when these promises are broken? Does the family turn on you even when you think you are right to break them?
We find out from this Redditor who promised her brother that she would be an egg donor for him and his husband. But when hecheatedand married the second husband, she backed out from her promise. What followed was her brother and family accusing her and telling her not to go back on her words.
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But her brother cheated on his husband and within three months got married to his affair partner, which everyone was fine with except the woman
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So, when her brother asked her to get tested for the egg donation, she refused as she felt what he did was wrong and his ex was still suffering after three years
Her brother called her out for breaking her promise and the family supported him, including her husband, so she asked Redditors whether she was at fault
In this story, Reddit userAccomplished-Pair656narrated why she broke a promise to her brother. Growing up, she was very close to him. He is gay and he married their close friend whom they had known since kindergarten. They dated for 15 years before marriage and they always dreamed of becoming parents. But they wanted the kid to be biologically related to them, and as she loved them both, she agreed to be their egg donor, which was really nice of her. However, it was just a verbal agreement and they didn’t do any tests as they were not in a rush to have kids.
For their anniversary, the husband wanted to renovate an old beach house, while the man thought it was a waste of money but decided to go ahead with it anyway. So, they hired an architect and started the work. After a while, they noticed that the brother was suddenly very interested in the idea. Turns out, he was having an affair with the architect and dumped his husband before the work was finished. The husband was extremely hurt, and to top it off, the brother married the architect just three months after thedivorce.
One day, her brother came to her and said that they were ready to beparentsand she should go and get tested. He had expected that his sister would keep her promise despite his actions. But she refused. She said, “My promise is no longer valid since you decided to cheat and I don’t feel comfortable giving my egg.” She felt that it had become personal as it didn’t fit in with her morals.
The woman expressed herself online, asking the netizens whether she was in the wrong. She also mentioned that she didn’t want to do this to the ex-husband, who was her close friend, as it was supposed to be his child.
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A few Redditors also spoke about the ex-husband and how sorry they felt for him. As perMentalHelp.Net, “Discovering that one’s spouse has cheated is a devastating experience for most people. Common reactions include rage, rejection, anxiety, fear, loss, betrayal, and despair. Sometimes disbelief accompanies all of this because it is difficult to accept given the depth and emotional involvement that intimacy brings with it. This also arouses feelings of self-doubt.”
From what OP has narrated, the ex-husband really seemed to be going through a lot. And the fact that he hasissueseven three years after the incident just tells us how deeply the infidelity and divorce impacted him.Researchalso suggests that this impact can be long-term as the one affected might find it difficult to trust people in the future.
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