Property matters are a slightly touchy subject and can end up causingfightseven between the closest of people. The most common types of disagreements usually happen over who is or who should be the rightful owner of the place and who is owed a piece of the property.

This is what a man faced when he decided to buy a house and realized that hisboyfriendwanted the place to be in his name as well. The guy couldn’t believe his partner’s entitlement and felt extremely unsure of what to do.

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When anyone decides to buy a house, it means they’ve put a lot of time, effort, and money into the decision, so any sudden plan changes might be problematic

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The poster shared that he had been saving up to buy a house for many years and that he had finally reached a point where he could start looking at properties

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When the guy’s 23-year-old boyfriend learned that he was house hunting, he expected his name to be added to the home’s deed, especially if they planned on living together

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The boyfriend hadn’t contributed to a deposit or the funds needed for the home but still demanded his name be added, which made the poster feel annoyed and helpless

The 23-year-old boyfriend expected his partner to cave in to hisdemandsand ensure the new property would be in both of their names. On the other hand, the poster wanted to protect his best interests and buy the house in only his name, especially because he had only been with his boyfriend for two years.

To understand what to do in such complex situations,Bored Pandareached out to G. Brian Davis, co-founder of SparkRental’s passivereal estate investment club. He explained that “as a general rule, it’s a bad idea for unmarried couples to buy a house together.”

“If a couple isn’t serious enough to get married, commit to spending their lives together, and legally join all their assets, they aren’t serious enough to co-own the largest asset either of them has ever had. It’s worth differentiating that being on the deed gives you ownership of the property. Being on the mortgage puts you on the hook for the debt,” Brian explained.

Brian Davisalso explained that “if an unmarried couple breaks up and they own a house together, with a mortgage, they are each individually liable for the loan, property taxes, insurance costs, and other expenses.”

“If one of them moves out of the house and wants to stop paying those expenses, they remain legally obligated. If the mortgage goes into default, the lender will foreclose and come after both owners for a deficiency judgment,” he shared. The young boyfriend obviously didn’t consider the extent of responsibility he’d have to take on if his name was on a home’s mortgage or deed.

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It’s obvious that the OP cared about his partner a lot and didn’t want to hurt his feelings. That’s why he felt so torn.He didn’t want to give up on his lifelong dream of owning a home and he also didn’t want the decision to affect his 2-yearrelationship.

We askedBrianwhat exactly could go wrong if an unmarried couple breaks up and both of their names are on the home’s deed. He said: “It gets messy fast when co-owners break up. They either have to sell the house (often at a loss), or one has to buy the other out, which often neither partner can afford.”

“There were countless horror stories of divorced couples sleeping in separate bedrooms and trying to date new people and explaining why they could never bring their new date back to their house. And those were married couples. Imagine how much more likely it is to break up when you haven’t committed to spending your life with the other person yet,” he stated.

That’s why the OP’s initial plan of having the house in his name seemed to be the most sensible option. Many netizens also advised him to get acohabitation agreementmade that could protect his property interests in case his boyfriend moved into the new place with him.

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Folks were vehemently against the author adding his boyfriend’s name to the deed of the new home, and some even told him to break up with the guy

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