Clingy exes can spell doom for their previous partner’srelationship, especially if they really want to get back together. They might go to the craziest lengths to woo their past lover or slyly place obstacles in their current relationship.
That is what happened to a guy whoseex-girlfriendcouldn’t accept that he had moved on. When his partner was away, the woman took her chance to gain his sympathy and worm her way back into his heart. Weirdly enough, he recorded everything to prove his innocence to his girlfriend.
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Nobody wants to believe that their partner could still have feelings for their ex, even if the proof is staring them right in the face
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The woman’s boyfriend, James, had broken up with his ex, Winnie, two years ago, but since she believed they were soulmates, she had never truly gotten over their relationship
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Once, after the poster had gone to stay at her parents’ house for the weekend, Winnie went over to the house in tears expecting James to comfort her
The poster found out that Winnie had gone over after seeing their doorbell camera footage, but the real kicker was when James showed her a recording that he had taken of the incident
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The video recording showed James and Winnie in bed, with him consoling her while she cried, but even though James didn’t cheat, the situation really hurt his girlfriend
The biggest problem with the entire thing was how much Winnie, the ex-girlfriend, still wanted to be in contact with James. She couldn’t get over their breakup, and he did nothing to setboundarieswith her or to get her to move on. That led to countless moments where he would console or reassure her, which obviously made the OP uncomfortable.
To understand more about dealing with clingy exes,Bored Pandareached out toJessica Boss, a professional breakup and relationship expert. Jessica has a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology and studied relationship dynamics at the University of Waterloo. She is also a featured columnist forLove Learnings.
We asked her why it’s so hard for some people to move on after a breakup. She said that “breaking up has a similar impact on ourmental healthto losing a loved one, so it’s not unusual for someone to struggle with intense grief and feelings of hopelessness and despair. As time passes, these feelings should subside naturally.”
“When someone can’t get over an ex, it’s often due to other problems in their own life. Typically, it means they lack self-esteem and confidence. Theycan’t move onbecause they feel that this person is irreplaceable because they feel they don’t truly deserve love from someone else,” Jessica explained.
It definitely seems like Winnie couldn’t bear to be on her own and needed James to always be in her life. So, when the OP and her partner moved in together, the ex-girlfriend broke down completely. James had to keep comforting her through her depression and crying fits instead of staying firm and letting her deal with her emotions on her own.
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James did not seem to realize his mistakes at all and wanted his girlfriend to forgive him completely for everything that had happened. Netizens told her not to give in, because it was clear that he would never set boundaries with Winnie and that weird stuff would keep happening.
We asked Jessica what a person should do to set boundaries with theirpartner’s ex, especially if the ex’s behavior heavily impacts their relationship. She said, “It shouldn’t be up to the girlfriend to set boundaries here. All she can do is clearly express her discomfort with their relationship.”
“Once you’ve reached the point of ultimatums or bargaining with your partner or their ex, the relationship is already taking serious damage. Theboyfriendneeds to make it clear to his ex that he isn’t interested and that she needs to move on. He needs to commit to never spending time with her alone again, and he needs to take steps to repair things with his partner,” she added.
Nobody wants to believe that their partner still harbors feelings for their past flame, but when the evidence is so damning, the truth must be accepted. Hopefully, the woman will decide to move on and find someone else who doesn’t have a clingy ex-girlfriend in tow.
People felt that the poster was naive in trusting her boyfriend and urged her to break things off with him since he was obviously not over his ex
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