Inheritance is a touchy subject and can sometimes cause conflicts between even the closestfamilymembers. Somehow, the division of money, property, and other assets seems to just bring out the worst in people.
That’s what one woman found out after an aunt that she really liked went behind her back andpilferedher late mom’s silver collection. This led to lots of hurt and confusion, as well as the loss of a really valued relationship between them.
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The poster shared that her mom passed away 10 years ago, but before that, she had inherited her parents’ wedding silver, which her children then used during events
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The author’s aunt, whom she had a good relationship with, seemed to have her eye on the silver collection and mentioned quite a few times that it belonged to her
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One day, the woman found out that her aunt had sneakily taken the wedding silver, and when she was confronted about it, she started getting defensive and nasty
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Even though the aunt had previously been extremely kind and helpful, her sneaky actions showed what kind of person she actually was
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The aunt’s greediness caused a huge rift between her and her niece, and that loss of trust would probably not be easy to get back
The poster explained that after hergrandparentspassed away, their belongings were divided among their five children. The OP’s mom received their wedding silver which her kids then used at events. It was something that the family found a lot of joy in using and it became a sort of tradition for them.
Unfortunately, not everyone was happy with this arrangement and the poster’s aunt kept trying to get thesilvercollection for herself. She didn’t respect her nieces and nephews wish to have it for themselves. Somehow she felt that it was owed to her.
Although it might seem like this kind of demand stems from greed,estate planningexperts say that it might actually be coming from people looking to feel loved and important. When family members fight over assets, it doesn’t always have to be about the money. Sometimes, it’s about what those possessions symbolize, like a sense of connection, love, and memories.
Unfortunately, even if the other person has the best intentions behind their actions, studies show that nearly 70% of families lose portions of theirinheritanceover such fights. Precious heirlooms and larger assets end up being contested in big battles between previously close family members.
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According toexpertsfiguring out one’s inheritance can be a tricky subject. Even though you might be hurt if a person tries to claim your assets, it’s important to understand that loved ones may also bedistressedabout the situation. They might struggle to let certain possessions go, especially if it meant a lot to the deceased person.
In this case, if the OP’s mom had not mentioned who the silver goes to in her will, it makes it more difficult to know what to do with the collection. The woman’s aunt must have expected to own it after her sister’s death. The only problem is that the way she went about acquiring it was definitely not nice.
The OP felt that her bond with her aunt was broken because of her actions, especially because the set might not have been worth more than £200-300. Unfortunately, it’s property like this that has strongemotional valuethat can sometimes spur the biggest fights between loved ones.
That’s why it’s so important to discuss such matters with family members while they’re still alive. Or make sure they add it to their will, which will save a lot of hassle later.
How would you have handled this situation if you were in the OP’s shoes?
Netizens sympathized with the poster and told her that inheritance matters definitely seem to bring out the worst side of people
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