Is it willful ignorance when a person puts you in a situation that could potentially harm you? And is it selfishness to prevent a person from moving back to their home because you want to ensure your safety?

Today’s Original Poster (OP) is allergic tocats. After having to deal with his mom’s cats for years, he decided he was done living with them. So when his mom announced she was coming back to their place with a bunch of them, he stood firm on saying no to the cats.

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Elderly woman with curly hair petting a ginger cat on a sofa, highlighting cat’s role in happiness.

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The author bought a house with his mother so she could take care of his son after his wife’s death

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Two kittens playfully interacting on a floral bedspread.

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His mom came with dogs and cats, and it was difficult because he was allergic to the cats, but he endured it for six years

A worried mom sits on a couch with hands on temples, pondering her son’s cat allergy.

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When the mother started seeing someone, she moved out of the house and decided to get more pets, including two kittens

She and her boyfriend eventually broke up, and she had to return to her home with the author, but he insisted that he wouldn’t be living with cats

Six years later, the mother moved across the country to be with a man she had met. Few months after the move, she started talking about getting new pets—two more kittens and a puppy. However, this set off alarm bells in the OP’s head. He then told the mom to think hard about if her newrelationshipwould last because he knew if things went south, his mother would return to the house with the pets.

As for him, he had struggled with her previouspets, so he told his mother that he would never live with a cat again. Despite his firm objections, the mother went ahead and got a puppy and two kittens. Unfortunately, his mother and her boyfriend broke up after two weeks because he couldn’t deal with her pets. This left her without a place to stay, so she had to return to her home.

His mother then began to insist that she would be bringing the puppy and kittens with her when she moved back in; however, the OP said “no cats.” She told the OP that he would be denying her happiness and offered to keep the cats in her room to limit their impact on the house, but the OP’s firm stance remained: no cats.

Mother and daughter arguing at home about son’s cat allergy.

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Positive Psychologyconfirms that pets greatly enhance mental and physical well-being. Pet owners are less likely to experience depression and often have lower blood pressure in stressful situations.

They explain that stroking or hugging pets can ease stress and playing with them boosts serotonin and dopamine. However, these benefits don’t eliminate concerns likeallergies, which is at the heart of the OP’s conflict with his mother over her cats.

Contrary to the belief that exposure builds tolerance,Alenexplains that prolonged contact with pets when one has an allergy can actually make allergies worse. Instead of adapting, the immune system may become more reactive to allergens in pet dander, saliva, and urine, leading to more severe symptoms or even asthma.

Managing allergies while living with pets requires proactive measures like keeping pet-free zones, using high-efficiency vacuums, and regular grooming. Still, in cases like the son’s, complete avoidance may be the only way to protect hishealth.

This conflict ties into a broader issue: co-owning a home. According toKKW Solicitors, buying property is a major financial and emotional commitment, especially when sharing ownership. While it has advantages, differing lifestyles and priorities can create friction. Clear agreements on responsibilities, such as pet policies, are essential to prevent disputes.

What do you think? Do you think the OP is being unfair, or is he justified in refusing to live with the cats despite his mother’s situation? We would love to hear your thoughts!

Netizens were divided as some called the mother selfish for dismissing her son’s allergy, while others maintained she had the right to bring the cats

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