It’s hard to say how long a friendship lasts. In some cases, a person may feel like your best friend after just one week and remainyour BFFfor life. Other times, a 15-year friendship might end in one day.

One woman decided to call it quits with her friend after eight years, but she had a pretty good reason. She found out that the so-calledfriendused to come sneaking into her house while she was out of town. Not able to get past that kind of betrayal, the woman cut off the ‘friend’ out of her life but faced backlash.

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Upon checking her security camera footage, a woman got an icky surprise: her friend of eight years was sneaking into her house uninvited

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She decided to end the friendship but later wondered if that was the right decision

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Text about friendship struggles and personal crises, emphasizing the exhaustion from constant relationship issues.

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Text conversation about security cameras capturing a friend’s unexpected indoor presence.

Friend admits entering house for art supplies, causing a cat to escape.

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“AITAH For Ending An 8-Year Friendship After My Cameras Recorded Her In My Home?”

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Some of our friends might be emotional vampires and exhaust us with their friendship

The author mentions how she felt that thefriendshiphad been exhausting her for quite a while now. “She was draining me emotionally, and I was trying to pull away,” sheadmittedin one comment.

We all like to vent to our friends about our problems without expecting them to offer solutions. But some friends or family membersmight overwhelmus with their negativity and constant drama. Or, as the author of this story put it, “constant personal relationship crises.”

The unofficial term for these kinds of people is “emotional vampires.” Suzy Reading, a psychologist and chartered member of the British Psychological Society,saysthat these kinds of people need constant validation and attention and often have a victim mentality.

“A lot of times, they don’t actually want solutions or advice – they just want to offload,” Reading told The Guardian. She emphasizes that women often get stuck in these kinds of friendships, as they’ve been brought up to prioritize the needs of others and keep the peace. According to her, even long friendships can end because one friend might find it too hard to keep the friendship up.

Dr. Carla Marie Manlysaysthat we should prioritize ourselves. “If it’s not good for you if you always feel awful after leaving your encounter with another person, it’s okay to let that person know in the gentlest, kindest, and most respectful way possible, ‘I’m not going to be communicating anymore with you. I have things that I need to tend to in my own life, and I wish you well.'”

“AITAH For Ending An 8-Year Friendship After My Cameras Recorded Her In My Home?”

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Researchers observe that most people have up to five close friends on average

Although every friendship is different, researchers have attempted to find out how long a friendship lasts. One survey asked 2,000 people about their friendship dynamics, and it appears that wetend to lose touchwith 50% of the friends that we make.

According to the survey, an average friendship lasts 17 years.Female friendships, on average, have a lifespan of 16 years. Interestingly, that’s eight years longer than an average romantic relationship.

A 2023 Pew survey set out to discover how many friends people have on average. The majority (53%) of American adultssaidthey have from one to four close friends, and 38% claimed they have five or more.

Anthropologist Robin Dunbarhas proposedan interesting idea that a person can only maintain 150 social contacts in their life. Any more and we would simply find it overwhelming, and the network wouldn’t last long.

Dunbar’s theory goes on in deeper layers: the 150 are meaningful contacts, and then 50 of those are “friends.” The 15 inside those are yourgood friends, and the five inside that circle are your main support group.

Overall, friendships are essential to people because we’re social beings. Loneliness, as the U.S. Surgeon Generalreported, can be as damaging to our health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day. But that doesn’t mean we have to maintain friendships with those who exhaust us. The point of friendships is to empower and nurture us.

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Commenters pointed out that the ‘friend’ might have been doing weird stuff during her ‘visits’ and perhaps even stole something

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People urged the OP to change her locks and cut ties with the friend to avoid any future drama

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Others said it’s the author’s fault for not keeping her house secure enough

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