Each of us has our own “painful points,” any touch of which, even years later, again brings to life the whole gamut of experiences that we thought had long since subsided with time. And literally anything can be a trigger for this. For example, one’s sister’s wedding.
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The author of the post was going to marry recently, but her sister refused to attend the wedding
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The thing is that the woman lost her own husband right after their wedding 6 years ago
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The widow hasn’t attended any wedding since then and her sister’s didn’t become an exception, but she decided it was just a whim to annoy her
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It turned out that the fam’s activity to make her RSVP Yes drove the sister to depression again – and her friend blamed the bride-to-be for her harassment
In the past, the woman married her boyfriend, and that wedding was rather symbolic. The thing is that the groom had late-stagecancerand passed away ten days after they tied the knot. And, contrary topopular wisdomthat time heals, here it has not turned out to be omnipotent…
Since then, the widow has avoided attending any weddings – and her sister’s ceremony was no exception. In turn, the author of the post decided that this was nothing more than an attempt to annoy her – after all, the sisters have had arocky relationshipfor many years. According to the bride-to-be, in six years, any mental wound should heal, and if not, then it’s nothing more than a whim.
As for our heroine, she didn’t at all consider her behavior to be any kind of harassment and, in her own words, her sister was simply “playing the depression card,” in order to justify her “unfair treatment” to the OP. However, even theauthor’s fiancedisagreed with her here – and the guy suggested she ask for advice online.
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“Based on the above, I can really agree with this bride-to-be that she and her sister do have a rocky relationship. But this is perhaps the only thing I can generally agree with her on,” says Irina Matveeva, apsychologistand psychologist certified NLP specialist, whomBored Pandaasked for a comment here. “It seems to me that this woman is forgetting one very important thing – each person has a completely different system of reactions to various life’s problems. Someone can recover in just a month or two, while others have a hard time for many years.”
“Well, besides, I can’t understand why she absolutely needs her sister’s presence at the wedding – especially knowing their background. Just to rub some salt in the wound? After all, it’s pretty obvious that being present at the reception won’t give her sister any pleasure. In any case, it just looks like a whim on the part of the bride. In the end, it’s a personal matter for everyone – what to worry about and what to respond to a wedding invitation,” Irina concludes.
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