The wedding day is one of the most important days in people’s lives. So it’s no surprise that they want everything to go smoothly; hence the months of preparation, arrangements, and worrying.
Forthis bride-to-be, one of the main wedding-related worries was the guestlist; and whether or not her cousin should be on it. Opening up to the ‘AITAH’ community, she shared that her disabled cousin consistently crosses physical boundaries, which makes her uncomfortable, and she doesn’t want to be on edge during her big day. Herfamily, however, believed that not inviting him would be unfair and cruel.
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This bride-to-be was worried that having her disabled cousin at her wedding would keep her on edge
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Working on understanding boundaries is imperative for people with developmental disabilities
With approximately317 millionchildren and adolescents with health conditions that contribute to developmental disabilities globally, not to mention the number of adults living with such a disability, it’s safe to assume that the OP’s family is not the only one having to navigate situations similar to the one the redditor found herself in.
For people with intellectual and developmental disabilities, also known as IDDs, it might be difficult to draw the line between behavior that is considered “appropriate” and overstepping someone’sboundaries. However, sources suggest that it’s important to work with developmentally disabled people towards a better understanding of boundaries, not only for the sake of those around them, but also for their own well-being.
According toCommunity Mainstreaming(CMA), an organization that provides personalized services to help maximize the independence of people with intellectual and developmental disabilities in their homes and communities, it’s critical to teach them about social boundaries. The organization notes that lack of awareness regarding said boundaries can negatively impact theirsocial skills, which in turn might lead to a decreased level of self esteem, social withdrawal, and feelings of alienation.
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It’s important that people with developmental disabilities understand boundaries for the sake of both themselves and those around them
CMA suggests that role playing or acting out common scenarios and conversations can be a great way to introduce social boundaries to someone with an IDD. (Nowadays, there is evena gamededicated to exactly that.) The organization also emphasizes that when talking on the topic, it’s imperative to discuss boundaries regarding touching, pointing out that touching another person differs depending on who the person is. “For example, the way you would touch your best friend may be different than the way you would physically engage with a stranger,” CMA notes.
Many netizens didn’t think the bride-to-be was a jerk in the situation
Some people believed that everyone was to blame here, at least to some extent
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