There’s nothing wrong with having different interests from yoursignificant other. For one, having separatehobbiesfrom your partner allows you to grow as a person and try new things.Therapistseven claim that couples who share too much in common often become bored in the relationship.
Scroll down to find the full story and a conversation with the original author,Mother_Negotiation42, and relationship expert, founder, and CEO ofCouples Experience,Tamika Carlton, who kindly agreed to tell us more about couples and hobbies.
Having separate hobbies from your partner can be healthy
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However, this husband was mocking wife’s interests, which led to a divorce
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After receiving many questions, the wife provided more information on the matter
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Her interest in puzzles started when she was young, in a small, rainy village where there wasn’t much to do
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Bored Pandareached out to the original author of the story,Mother_Negotiation42, who kindly agreed to share more details about it. Firstly, we were curious to know what inspired her to take this online in the first place.
She explains that her interest inpuzzlesstarted when she was young. She was growing up in a small, rainy village where there wasn’t much to do, especially being the only child. “I’d spend a lot of time doing board games with my grandma, who lived with us at the time, but I’d always had the most fun when spending time on these puzzles.”
Having taken her story online, she felt seen and validated in the decision she was going to make. “I knew from the very beginning that I wasn’t going to make my decision based solely on the replies I got from this post, but I wanted to know if I was completely incorrect in the whole situation because it felt like everyone in my life at the time was telling me so.”
Separate hobbies might bring frustration into a relationship
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We also contacted relationship expert, founder, and CEO ofCouples Experience,Tamika Carlton, who kindly agreed to tell us more about couples and hobbies. She believes that having separate hobbies can be helpful. “When you are in a healthy partnership and relationship, somehow, you begin to gain interest in what one another loves. It really is a result of spending quality time with one another. I also suggest introducing each other to what you love. That will create a deeper bond between you and your partner.
But what if this fails and the other person starts to voice frustrations about your dissimilar activities? Carlton suggests, “It’s important for your partner to have their own individual identity and not have to conform to what you love, so don’t force it.
With some creativity, separate hobbies and relationships can be perfectly compatible
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The point is that it’s best to be open to experiencing something new together. Step out of your comfort zone together and see how much your connection shifts for the better. I remember Logan and I went zip-lining together in Costa Rica. This was literally not what either one of us would have ever done before, but there was something intriguing that occurred when we tackled our fears together. The bond between us got even deeper.”
Commenters were saying that the wife wasn’t wrong for wanting a divorce and that the puzzle was the least of their problems
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