Bringing a new family member into the world is extremely exciting for everyone involved. Mom and Dad’s lives are forever changed, but even aunts, uncles and grandparents tend to be thrilled about having little ones around.
This woman’s mother-in-law revealed at Christmas that she had gotten a special gift for herself and her granddaughter
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But when the surprise turned out to be a large tattoo, it didn’t go over very well with the family
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Later, the mother updated her post to clarify where she was coming from
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Many people get tattoos to honor or remember a loved one
According toMy Caring Plan, grandparents getting tattoos for their grandchildren is not unheard of either. “These tattoos are a way to honor their love, wisdom, guidance, and the immeasurable role they play in shaping us into who we are,” My Caring Plan notes. “They serve as a reminder of the special memories, warmth, and nurturing nature that only grandmothers can provide.”
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It’s even common for grandparents and grandchildren to get tattoos for one another
Some of the more popular design ideas that grandparents might get tattoos of are floral names (which sounds similar to the tattoo referenced in this story), names with birthdates, an infinity symbol, a family tree, handprints or footprints, interlocking puzzle pieces, birth flowers, a memory collage, zodiac signs, animal silhouettes, or the hands of the grandchild and grandparent holding one another.
While the grandmother in this story believed she was doing something sweet, her son and daughter-in-law perceived the tattoo quite differently. So what are parents to do when grandparents overstep their boundaries? According to clinical psychologistMichele Goldman, grandparents might overstep for a variety of reasons, including not understanding they’re doing anything wrong or not respecting the boundaries that parents have set.
Goldman toldRomperthat it’s important for parents to get on the same page as their partner and communicate boundaries clearly. It can also be wise to ask for help from the grandparents at times, so they don’t feel overlooked or undervalued.
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But when moms and dads feel that their parents or in-laws have overstepped, it’s important to communicate boundaries
As far as what grandparents should be carefulnotto do, it’s recommended that they don’t show up unannounced, give gifts for no reason or give extravagant gifts with no warning, post photos on social media without permission, undermine parents’ rules in front of their kids, criticize the parents in front of their kids, allow the kids to have excessive screen time, or talk about family members in a negative way in front of the kids.
As stressful as being a parent can be, it’s best to have a healthy relationship with your parents and your partner’s parents if possible. A little bit of communication can go a long way, and it’s important to remember that they probably have good intentions most of the time, whether it seems like it to you or not.
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Many readers explained to the mom that she was overreacting to the tattoo
And others assured the mom that she was right to be upset
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