In most relationships, at a certain point it just becomes common sense to move in together. More time shared, lower rent and a sure sign that therelationshipis being taken to the next level. However, as many women have learned, often this can mean becoming a truly surrogate mother for a partner who suddenly doesn’t know how to do basic tasks.

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RELATED:For those who are unfamiliar with the concept ofweaponized incompetence, it’s rather simple. Imagine a couple, living together. Perhaps they have just moved in together. It’s time to do the laundry. The man, either lying or entirely truthfully goes"I don’t know how to do it!“So now it’s the woman’s household task.Now this suddenly becomes her regular routine chore. She asks him to learn, but he either insists it’s impossible or, even worse, he attempts to do it and does the laundry so poorly that she feels like she should do it next time. None of this to say that allwomenare saints, but this flavor of poor behavior is often male.Remember, asking a grown adult to do a household task is a normal thing to do. If someone can work a job, even an entry-level one, they have the necessary skills to wash a plate,mop the flooror iron some clothes. It’s ok to not be good at it at first, although it’s really never that hard, unless the plates are truly piled sky-high.Unfortunately, some men seem to think that doing their share of manual labor is worse than openly admitting that they can’t figure out which end of a broom to use. This entirestrategyrelies on the fact that no one calls them out. After all, at some point, as the live-in partner of such a man, you will need some dishes, so you will end up cleaning them yourself.The causes are myriad, but it mostly comes down to the fact that these things simply have to be done. Most likely, growing up, these fellows had a parental figure, a maid or even a sibling who picked up the slack while they relaxed. Theynever matureinto adults who takeresponsibilityfor the environment around them, to the detriment of their partners. Even worse, they can’t do the most simple things, like finally taking out the trash (themselves.)See Also on Bored PandaSee Also on Bored PandaContinue reading with Bored Panda PremiumUnlimited contentAd-free browsingDark modeSubscribe nowAlready a subscriber?Sign InSee Also on Bored PandaSee Also on Bored PandaSee Also on Bored PandaSee Also on Bored Panda

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For those who are unfamiliar with the concept ofweaponized incompetence, it’s rather simple. Imagine a couple, living together. Perhaps they have just moved in together. It’s time to do the laundry. The man, either lying or entirely truthfully goes"I don’t know how to do it!“So now it’s the woman’s household task.Now this suddenly becomes her regular routine chore. She asks him to learn, but he either insists it’s impossible or, even worse, he attempts to do it and does the laundry so poorly that she feels like she should do it next time. None of this to say that allwomenare saints, but this flavor of poor behavior is often male.

For those who are unfamiliar with the concept ofweaponized incompetence, it’s rather simple. Imagine a couple, living together. Perhaps they have just moved in together. It’s time to do the laundry. The man, either lying or entirely truthfully goes"I don’t know how to do it!“So now it’s the woman’s household task.

Now this suddenly becomes her regular routine chore. She asks him to learn, but he either insists it’s impossible or, even worse, he attempts to do it and does the laundry so poorly that she feels like she should do it next time. None of this to say that allwomenare saints, but this flavor of poor behavior is often male.

Messy living room with cushions scattered, reflecting weaponized incompetence concept.

Piece of butter in an almost empty fridge illustrating weaponized incompetence.

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Remember, asking a grown adult to do a household task is a normal thing to do. If someone can work a job, even an entry-level one, they have the necessary skills to wash a plate,mop the flooror iron some clothes. It’s ok to not be good at it at first, although it’s really never that hard, unless the plates are truly piled sky-high.

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A can placed sideways on a bathroom counter, surrounded by grooming products, illustrating weaponized incompetence.

Messy kitchen with pots and utensils scattered, illustrating the concept of weaponized incompetence in cooking.

Unfortunately, some men seem to think that doing their share of manual labor is worse than openly admitting that they can’t figure out which end of a broom to use. This entirestrategyrelies on the fact that no one calls them out. After all, at some point, as the live-in partner of such a man, you will need some dishes, so you will end up cleaning them yourself.

Empty ice cream container on a concrete floor, illustrating weaponized incompetence.

Text exchange showing possible example of weaponized incompetence regarding handling frozen chicken.

Toshiba laptop with stickers, representing the idea of weaponized incompetence; untidy surface.

The causes are myriad, but it mostly comes down to the fact that these things simply have to be done. Most likely, growing up, these fellows had a parental figure, a maid or even a sibling who picked up the slack while they relaxed. Theynever matureinto adults who takeresponsibilityfor the environment around them, to the detriment of their partners. Even worse, they can’t do the most simple things, like finally taking out the trash (themselves.)

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A mostly empty snack bag, illustrating the concept of weaponized incompetence with only a few crackers left inside.

Empty carton left in fridge, illustrating weaponized incompetence.

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Empty chocolate tray with leftover bits, symbolizing weaponized incompetence in a disorganized manner.

Old, dirty frying pans on a kitchen counter, illustrating weaponized incompetence in household chores.

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Toilet paper roll placed on top of an empty holder, illustrating weaponized incompetence in household tasks.

White mug precariously placed on the edge of a wooden table, illustrating weaponized incompetence.

Text exchange about finding Q-tips in the toilet, highlighting weaponized incompetence.

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Burnt food on foil showcasing weaponized incompetence in cooking.

Cup with insufficiently mixed ingredients illustrates weaponized incompetence in a casual setting.

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Overcooked chicken on a plate, possibly illustrating the concept of weaponized incompetence in cooking.

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Broken bottles with spilled purple liquid, illustrating weaponized incompetence in a careless mess.

Pecan pie with unevenly eaten center, illustrating weaponized incompetence humorously with a fork left in the pie.

Toilet paper rolls on a shelf, representing the concept of weaponized incompetence in everyday tasks.

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Text message breakup example showcasing weaponized incompetence in relationships.

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A person holding a Pyrex measuring cup filled with cooked sausages, exemplifying weaponized incompetence in cooking.

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