As you’regrowing up, politicians, teachers, and pretty much everyone around you keep repeating that you are the future of this world. The person who will shape the way it looks tomorrow. But before you can take it all in, it’s already the day after, the echo of those words has faded, and the only thing you’re left with is that annoying back pain that doesn’t go away no matter what mobility exercise you’re doing.But don’t worry, this realization is part of maturity. To make it easier to accept, the subreddit ‘Heck I’m Old’ shares posts from people who are in the same position and choose to reminisce with smiles and giggles. So let’s scroll through what they have to offer and maybe, just maybe, knowing that the past is still alive in our collective memory is exactly what we need to feel better about our wrinkles and graying hair.This post may includeaffiliate links.
As you’regrowing up, politicians, teachers, and pretty much everyone around you keep repeating that you are the future of this world. The person who will shape the way it looks tomorrow. But before you can take it all in, it’s already the day after, the echo of those words has faded, and the only thing you’re left with is that annoying back pain that doesn’t go away no matter what mobility exercise you’re doing.
But don’t worry, this realization is part of maturity. To make it easier to accept, the subreddit ‘Heck I’m Old’ shares posts from people who are in the same position and choose to reminisce with smiles and giggles. So let’s scroll through what they have to offer and maybe, just maybe, knowing that the past is still alive in our collective memory is exactly what we need to feel better about our wrinkles and graying hair.
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While the inevitable passage of time certainly takes a lot of things away from us, it does provide quite a few as well. One of its most important contributions is to the way wefeel.Positive and negative affects (mood) seem to operate independently of each other: you can have a lot or a little of either or both.“High affect” people score above average on both positive and negative mood levels, while “low affect” people score less on both.No matter which type you start out with, you can expect your affect levels to change in a favorable trajectory over the course of your life.
While the inevitable passage of time certainly takes a lot of things away from us, it does provide quite a few as well. One of its most important contributions is to the way wefeel.
Positive and negative affects (mood) seem to operate independently of each other: you can have a lot or a little of either or both.
“High affect” people score above average on both positive and negative mood levels, while “low affect” people score less on both.
No matter which type you start out with, you can expect your affect levels to change in a favorable trajectory over the course of your life.
According toresearchpublished in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, both men and women see an increase in positive affect as they get older (women, in particular, see a greater and accelerating increase).On average, negative affect does not change for women predictably with age, but it decreases for aging men (with the caveat that the decrease is more pronounced for married men; for unmarried men, negative affect is elevated at every stage of life).
According toresearchpublished in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, both men and women see an increase in positive affect as they get older (women, in particular, see a greater and accelerating increase).
On average, negative affect does not change for women predictably with age, but it decreases for aging men (with the caveat that the decrease is more pronounced for married men; for unmarried men, negative affect is elevated at every stage of life).
Many theories have been proposed for why this happens. But a 2013reviewof research indicates that older people develop at least three distinct emotional skills: 1) they react less to negative situations, 2) they are better at ignoring irrelevant negative stimuli than they were when younger, and 3) they remember more positive than negative information.Basically, it’s like knowing your negative emotions won’t last so you disregard them when they do arise and get a head start on the good feelings.
Many theories have been proposed for why this happens. But a 2013reviewof research indicates that older people develop at least three distinct emotional skills: 1) they react less to negative situations, 2) they are better at ignoring irrelevant negative stimuli than they were when younger, and 3) they remember more positive than negative information.
Basically, it’s like knowing your negative emotions won’t last so you disregard them when they do arise and get a head start on the good feelings.
Arthur Brooks, who is a professor at the Harvard Kennedy School and the Harvard Business School, where he teaches courses on leadership and happiness, thinks that when we’re talking about growing old, we also have to mention changes in personality.
“Some of the changes are not necessarily either good or bad. For example, people tend to become less gregarious after their mid-50s; they become more assertive from adolescence through their mid-30s and stay at this higher level; their openness to experience rises into early adulthood, stabilizes, and falls after their mid-50s.“But other changes are unambiguously positive. “Agreeableness tends to rise throughout adulthood, probably as we see its benefits and establish more emotional equanimity,” Brooks adds. “Neuroticism usually falls, at least until one’s late 60s. And conscientiousness rises continuously. If you follow the typical development, you can expect to be nicer and kinder, and less depressed and anxious, when you are old.”
“Some of the changes are not necessarily either good or bad. For example, people tend to become less gregarious after their mid-50s; they become more assertive from adolescence through their mid-30s and stay at this higher level; their openness to experience rises into early adulthood, stabilizes, and falls after their mid-50s.”
But other changes are unambiguously positive. “Agreeableness tends to rise throughout adulthood, probably as we see its benefits and establish more emotional equanimity,” Brooks adds. “Neuroticism usually falls, at least until one’s late 60s. And conscientiousness rises continuously. If you follow the typical development, you can expect to be nicer and kinder, and less depressed and anxious, when you are old.”
Our self-esteemalso tends to riseas we move through adulthood, all the way to age 60.It usually stays at a high level until about 70, then slightly declines. This last downward section could be connected to the accumulating death toll of elderly friends and spouses, but even so, we can expect it to be better at age 80 than 30.
Our self-esteemalso tends to riseas we move through adulthood, all the way to age 60.
It usually stays at a high level until about 70, then slightly declines. This last downward section could be connected to the accumulating death toll of elderly friends and spouses, but even so, we can expect it to be better at age 80 than 30.
So now that you know things are likely to get better as you age, we invite you to dive deeper into ‘Heck I’m Old’ and fire up our earlier publications on the subreddit50 Painfully Funny Pics Of People Who Are Getting Old Faster Than They Expectedand40 Funny Posts Of People Grasping The Reality That They’re Old Now.
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