“Better late than never.” This often-used expression may apply to arriving at 10 a.m. for a 9:30 meeting ortaking up Brazilian jiu-jitsuat 48 years old. It’s also for those valuable lessons we learn through experience and, sometimes, through life’s difficult moments.
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Always be ready to survive alone. Some people suddenly change, today you’re important to them, tomorrow you’re nothing to them and that’s real life.
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You get into bed and are preparing for a good sleep.You feel like you wanna pee.It’s cold out there, so you decide to hold it back.“I would be in a deep sleep in minutes anyway”, as you lied to yourself.You tossed and turned for 2 hours, finally you put on your slippers, rushed to the toilet.You have wasted 2 hours making up your mind, 2 hours that could have been used for a good rest.When something is bothering you in your life, be it sand in your shoes, long-due homework, a school bully, sexual molestation in office, you figure it out ASAP.Troubles simply won’t straighten themselves out, you wanna have a better life, you fix your troubles the very moment they emerge, and fix them once and for all.
Not me but one of my friends.He had a rather amusing revelation. He only started wearing glasses in 2017 during 10th grade.Prior to that, he genuinely thought that everything was supposed to become blurry around 20 feet away.It wasn’t until then that he realized people could see individual green leaves, not just a vague green blur.Talk about realising something embarrassingly late.
Hold on to friends from your past, no matter how hard or weird it can be to stay in touch. Good relationships grow and adapt to time and distance. As easy as it can be to let someone fade away, strong friendships are worth the effort.
That there are 3 holes down there, for a woman. I was a biology student in school but never paid attention to details, maybe I was too young for that. One we were discussing about menstrual cups, then I (and my friend) asked, “what if we want to pee?”. My friend looked at us in shock, and said “There is a separate passage for the menstrual blood” I know! It’s unbelievable to me too! Facepalm!
What I think it took me way too long to learn is how to be happy and content with myself as a person, and how to live in the moment. I spent all of my teen years into my 20s and 30s in a daze. I hated myself, hated my life, blamed others for what was essentially my own shortcomings.It wasn’t until I hit my 40s that I began to figure all of this out. First and foremost, if you have an issue with someone else’s behavior, it could very well be yourself that has that issue. I fell in love at 17 for the first time and for the next four years I struggled - WE struggled - to have a happy relationship, but it just wasn’t happening. And I blamed him for my unhappiness - if he wasn’t doing this or that, then I’d be happy. So we broke up and I spent the next twenty or so years in relationship after relationship, all with the same problem. One day it hit me that the only one responsible for our feelings is US. And then I stopped living for tomorrow and began to live just for right now - and that is the only time that matters - RIGHT NOW.Here is the ironic part: that guy I fell in love with at 17? We hooked back up after 35 years and now we’ve been married for five years and we are happy with ourselves and with each other. I feel sad that I wasted so much of my life expecting others to fill the holes inside me, when the power to be happy was in my hands all along.
In elementary school, my friends would often ride bikes together after school. They often invited me to join them, and I always refused because I didn’t know how to ride bikes! I would fall off every time I attempted. My friends started making fun of me (in a rather friendly way) because they thought that everyone that age should know how to ride bikes (we were 9–10).I finally learned to ride bikes at the embarrassingly late age of 14.
Early in life, I wished that I learned that just because adults were arguing, did not mean they hated one another or that the ‘end was near.’Later in late, I wished I learned that not everyone is for you. Live your truth and light.
So many things. Soooo many thingsBut I’ll just explain one. Swallowing.APPERENTLY, I never swallowed food before a year ago.I had an incident where I was eating an apple slice. And I coughed and ended up swallowing it, and I told my friend that it was the creepiest feeling to have something solid go down my throat and I didn’t choke at all becuase it was small.And his response was. “You mean…eating normally? Like swallowing? “I was flabbergasted. Of course it’s not normal, it went down solid dude like as in a whole piece that still had some level of solidness.He then explained undeniable proof. People eating noodles whole without chewing.It was then that I realized I don’t swallow food, at all. I just chew until it disappears entirely (which is why I dislike some chewy meats, since I don’t swallow them it takes like 10-15 minutes to eat a piece)Freaking, earth shattering discovery.Also I still can’t force myself to swallow food like that, only rarely like. An individual fourth of a bean or something well chewed.Super disturbing to me.
I have always believed that learning is not a means to an end, but an end in itself. One thing, however, I did say to new people entering my team, obviously before I became a freelance, was “You can make as many mistakes as you like during your probationary period, as long as you make each mistake only once”. Alternately, to quote Otto von Bismarck, “Only a fool learns from his own mistakes. The wise man learns from the mistakes of others”.
What is something that is embarrassing to admit you learned late in life?In order to get the attention of others and also to show to them that I am smart and intelligent, I started to do some mannerisms - like grew french beard, speak in English with a different modulation (different to Indian English), speaking a bit loudly to attract attention etc.After sometime I realized the stupidity of such things. I was totally embarrassed about what I did - in fact those mannerisms would have made me a laughing stock.Even now when I see someone doing such things, I put myself in their shoes and feel very ashamed and uncomfortable.
I thought the belly button was a genuine knot that the doctor tied from the umbilical cord and then he pushed it in to make an inward belly button. I blame both people with outie belly buttons that looks like a small knot and my mother who told me that a skilled physician can make the difference between an innie and an outie. My mind took 1 and 1 and made 3. I shall not reveal the age at which I realized the truth, because you know, dignity.
1-Debt will beat you down if you don’t stay away from them. Will make you mentally and physically ill, and will also attract a whole range of negativity.2-Whoever you marry has/must match your fundamental values and vision towards life, otherwise you’re trapped in some sort of emotional jail. Make sure to take this step once you’re grown up enough (after 33 preferably).3-There’s a time for specfic things, do them when you’re supposed to or consciously decide not to do them due to right and coherent reasons; otherwise you start a path full of regrets.
People are extremely superficial.You may not have realized it if you are exceptionally attractive or social. But the thing is, most people don’t want to be around you unless you provide them with some form of instant gratification. This can come in the form of being exceptionally humorous, pleasing to look at, or good at something.It doesn’t matter who you are on the inside, if you don’t immediately have something to offer people on the outside. You could save the world, and become a celebrity for a few years, but if you aren’t socially gifted, your fame will be extremely temporary.Being an extrovert who also happens to have extreme social anxiety, this was one of the hardest lessons I’ve had to come to terms with over the past 7 years.
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- As humans we want to believe that we are always right and we try to justify our actions. We sometimes see ourselves as the hero always but we can do things which can hurt greatly the people around us. The worst thing is that some of us don’t even notice it.2. Being alone for some time is good for your mental health.3. Holding grudges just makes us worst off. Forgiveness is supreme.4. When you’re kind, people will always want to take advantage of learn. Learn to set boundaries between you and people.5. Be very careful what you say to people. Words pierce like an arrow.6. be kind to everyone, people are going through a lot these days and most of them will not show it to you.7. Love yourself.
- When i was much younger i thought i knew everything and tried to change the world. Now i am 84 i have learned i dont know everything and now concentrate on changing myself2. Kindness is a quality the deaf can hear, the blind see, and dumb want to shout out about3. The 2 most important days of my life are the day I was born and the day i found out why4. I believe in love5. I believe God loves me6. My parenrs did their best7. I did my best8. Mistakes are not a death sentence but a door to a bigger world9. God did not make me to save the world but myself and as an example of what to do and what not to do10. Most who hate me hate themsekves more
We can’t rely on the media alone to properly inform us. The amount of press that a problem receives doesn’t necessarily reflect the true severity of the problem; the problem could be even more serious than the press indicates. A problem that definitely needs more press is the threat that introduced species often pose to native species. The Hawaiian goose, or nene, was estimated to have numbered about 25,000 at the end of the 19th century. By 1947, they had declined to 30. This was because the settlers cleared the birds’ habitat for farmland, hunted them for their meat, and introduced domestic livestock and (accidentally) rats. In the hope of controlling the rats, the small Indian mongoose was also introduced. However, like the rats, the mongooses are now a threat to Hawaii’s native wildlife, including the nene. By 1993, however, the nene was estimated to number about 500, as a result of intense conservation work.Source:•Few, Roger. “Oceanic Islands”. Macmillan Children’s Guide to Endangered Animals, Marshall Editions Ltd., 1993, pp. 90–91.
You know my parents sheltered me so well from society and when I got out of my own and I started seeing how really s***ty people are and why my dad told me to never change and always be thoughtful in kind but to not let people take advantage of me and now I see why
- Dad was right, save first before you start spending.2. Your reward is not in heaven. Only lazy lads say this.3. Life is actually short. Nothing lasts forever.4. Money is not the root of all evil. The lack of money is.5. Never sacrifice your progress for a friend. They might not do the same if the tables were turned.6. Stop trying to make everyone love you. You need enemies to succeed.7. Find something you love, something you can lean on to, something that would keep you going. You need something to fall back on when you get depressed.8. Networking is important. Never underestimate anybody.9. Politics and religion are just as important as oxygen and CO2, they have killed nations and developed some.10. Never take any opportunity for granted. See that school you have access to and hate so much, some other kid just wishes he had something close to that.11. Classical music is good.12. Read as many books as possible. No knowledge is ever lost.13. Mom and Dad always wanted the best for you.
What is something you found out late in life you should have known earlier but just didn’t?A couple things - family related.I grew up understanding my maternal grandfather died in a hunting accident. (in 1946) when my mom was about 1 or so. It was only around 2011/2013 or so that I found out it was not an accident - well the accident was that he was shot, the person who shot him was actually attempting to shoot his uncle. It is one of the reasons on my mom’s side of the family guns were not a thing.I also found out relatively recently, that my mom was diagnosed with type II diabetes, this made me a bit upset, as she knew pre 2013 and delayed telling us until after her mom (my grandmother passed 2013)The reason this was/is important is that my father was diabetic, as was his father - so the fact type II diabetes is on BOTH sides of my family means I am that much more likely to develop it. Since then my identical twin was diagnosed with diabetes. So it is very likely that I will develop it at some point. I am hoping to delay it as long as possible with diet and exercise. (Not always good on the diet side, but my numbers are still decent.)The key for me is that families often keep secrets, but keeping secrets can be harmfulNot knowing that my mom’s dad was actually murdered means I just thought that grandma did not like guns because they were dangerous - accidents happen, but it is a 100% different context when you learn it was not an accident but a deliberate act, just that the shooter hit the wrong person..Not knowing my mom was diagnosed with type II diabetes meant that I had that many fewer years to change my lifestyle. (Yes I could and did make some changes due to my father’s diagnosis - but my father was obese for much of their adult life, at least since I was 17/18, my mom was not big on exercise, but has always been relatively average weight, knowing that would have meant I would have made some lifestyle changesBy keeping secrets from those who have a right to know, you prevent them from making informed decisions about things that may impact them.In my case - views about guns and health decisions.
(1) Dreams? Nightmare?Why you get nightmares?Dreams mainly occur in the rapid-eye movement stage of sleep—when brain activity is high and resembles that of being awake.Anxiety and depression causes nightmare.Why you get Hiccups ? Ohh! I thought somewhere someone is missing me :(The throat muscle contracts repeatedly, the opening between the vocal cords snaps shut to check the inflow of air and makes the hiccup sound.(3)You cannot make everyone happy.(4)You don’t need people to love you.(5)Surfing internet can be the best utilization of time and waste of time both. Depends!(6) Marks does matter, so does looks.(6) Dal chawal, Rajma, samosa none of these are born in India.I really thought these dishes are Indian originated!(7) Your brain doesn’t know the difference between reality and expectations.
I have no idea. Most of us know things that we believe to be “common knowledge” that isn’t commonly known. If we’re told that something is “common knowledge”, there’s no way to be sure it is without information drawn from a statistically significant sample drawn from the population. Maybe a group that performs that sort of research would be enlightening. I suspect that they’d learn that there’s a lot less “common knowledge” than most of us believe. Maybe it would inspire more discussion between those of us who have differing “common knowledge”. If there is some group doing this sort of research, they need to make their existence more well-known … or is that “common knowledge” that I have yet to learn?
There are few learnings from my past :1. People are not always what they appear to be.2. Life is an unpredictable journey. You get the surprises when you don’t even expect them.3. Your true well wisher is your Family.4. Don’t expect the others to be like you. They don’t behave as per your behavior , they react as per their approach & mentality.5. Money matters a lot.6. Your health is the best asset in your life. Take care of your body coz it’s the only place where you have to stay entire lifetime.7. Your Emotional quotient is an important part in your life. You must be strong not just physically but emotionally as well.8. People will use you according to their needs.9. Your knowledge is something which can rise you above all.10. Life is given once, so don’t waste time & enjoy every second of it.There are many more things , but I think that’s enough for today.I will charge for further Consultation 😅😅😅
- That body language speaks a lot more than actual words. It matters. A lot.2. You can always earn money. It’s not a big deal. Your world is not going to end because you don’t have a fixed income. Something else will work out.3. Saying No is important. People don’t get offended as much as you think.4. You use only less than 10% of stuff you possess. Get rid of that stuff that you hardly ever use, you will have that many less things to worry about.5. What people say when they are angry, aren’t things they mean. They regret it often. Forgive angry people. It’s okay, they are only human.6. There are no winners in an argument. Only losers. Don’t ruin your relationships arguing about things that don’t really matter.7. Nothing is complicated. Not as much as you assume. It’s just your mind playing tricks with you. If you get down to it, it’s all really simple and clear.8. Loving your partner is a choice, not a feeling. And your character is the choices you make.9. No one in this world will stand up for you like the way your parents do. Always be there for them.
Early in life, I wish I’d fully learned just how different the US (republic) is from America (the society that the US is supposed to serve). Later in life, wish I’d belatedly learned of some people believing that damnation to eternal hellfire is considered a divinely just punishment for anything.
That my mother is a narcissist a cold hearted calculating monster and still is as she steals my children and grandchildren what reason I don’t know she has every single trait of a narcissist which I am 52 now took me 49 years to work out that there’s nothing wrong with me it’s her it’s so hard I still love my mother the last word she spoke to me she told me I was dead to her cos I obviously figured her out and she knew it I don’t know but I’ve had to re-evaluate my whole life what I believed in and how it was not the way that I should be it’s really so twisted I have spent 21 years this year Christmas is On My own because my mother has alienated me from my whole entire family makeover my children my grandchildren my grandmother my aunties uncle’s cousins they all refused to talk to me I’m not even a bad person I’ve never even done anything that she can validate that would even warrant this behaviour so I am sad to say that’even though my mother is a cruel monster I still love her because that’s what normal people do love their mother
This is my lesson:1. Though life may put me hell tough situations but I will NEVER put myself down.2. I will face it with and beyond my courage.3. In the time I will make self development, I will invest in me for the future.4. Everything is a blessing in disguise. So no embarassing moment. It’s good that the embarrassing moment have chosen to hug me, rather than troubling others :). I will face it nicely.
That love is a waste of time except for when it’s for your parents or friends.
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