For many people, the thought of certain interactions alone can be enough to send shivers down their spines or make them intensely dread something. If you’re anintrovert, you probably know the feeling. You might also know just how good it feels to finally find the time to recharge that battery after lengthy episodes of interacting, and maybe scrolling through somefunny memeswhile you’re at it.
Below you will find not only the memes, but also our interview with a former clinical psychologist,Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D, who was kind enough to answer a few ofBored Panda’squestions about introversion.
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If you’re unsure what exactly makes someone anintrovert, there is no one right answer. But, according to former clinical psychologist Dr. Leon F. Seltzer, one of the things that are characteristic of introverted people is that they keep many of their feelings to themselves, lacking the motivation to share that’s reflective of extroverts.“They also tend to be much more introspective and emotionally more distant from others than are their personality counterparts,” he added in a recent interview withBored Panda.
If you’re unsure what exactly makes someone anintrovert, there is no one right answer. But, according to former clinical psychologist Dr. Leon F. Seltzer, one of the things that are characteristic of introverted people is that they keep many of their feelings to themselves, lacking the motivation to share that’s reflective of extroverts.
“They also tend to be much more introspective and emotionally more distant from others than are their personality counterparts,” he added in a recent interview withBored Panda.
Talking about what determines whether a person is an introvert or an extrovert, Dr. Seltzer noted that it’s largely genetic and not something that the individual consciously chooses. “At times, however, environmental contingencies can ‘train’ a person not to trust others, and so become more introverted than their genes would have them be,” he said.
Like most things, introversion, too, is often misunderstood. Talking about things people often mistakenly consider to be introversion, Dr. Seltzer said that can be someone who is a shy extrovert, for example. “Though this is hardly common,” he added, saying that some extroverts are simply less “out there” than others.“Moreover, a quiet person isn’t necessarily an introvert. It’s best to see things that are peculiarly human as existing on a continuum,” the expert said, providing another example of a common misconception.
Like most things, introversion, too, is often misunderstood. Talking about things people often mistakenly consider to be introversion, Dr. Seltzer said that can be someone who is a shy extrovert, for example. “Though this is hardly common,” he added, saying that some extroverts are simply less “out there” than others.
“Moreover, a quiet person isn’t necessarily an introvert. It’s best to see things that are peculiarly human as existing on a continuum,” the expert said, providing another example of a common misconception.
Talking about introversion duringher TED Talk, Cain pointed out that being an introvert doesn’t equal being shy, which is what some people tend to think.“Shyness is about fear of social judgement, [while] introversion is more about how you respond to stimulation; including social stimulation,” she said. “So extraverts really crave large amounts of stimulation, whereas introverts feel at their most alive and their most switched on and their most capable when they’re in quieter, more low-key environments.”
Talking about introversion duringher TED Talk, Cain pointed out that being an introvert doesn’t equal being shy, which is what some people tend to think.
“Shyness is about fear of social judgement, [while] introversion is more about how you respond to stimulation; including social stimulation,” she said. “So extraverts really crave large amounts of stimulation, whereas introverts feel at their most alive and their most switched on and their most capable when they’re in quieter, more low-key environments.”
Sometimes, due to the differences between introverts and extroverts, it can be difficult for the two groups to really understand each other and see where their counterparts are coming from. But it’s important to at least try to.
The expert continued to suggest that true understanding has to be emotional, not simply cognitive, if there is to be full acceptance of others' viewpoints that are different from one’s own.
While some people love to say that opposites attract, they likely don’t mean extroverts and introverts, as Dr. Seltzer believes that it is much easier for introverted people to befriend likeminded individuals than it is their extroverted counterparts.“The latter alternative makes little sense to me. It’s much more challenging to befriend someone whose views differ significantly from yours. And the phrase ‘opposites attract’ is one that’s used predominantly in a romantic context, and certainly isn’t limited to the introversion/extroversion aspect of personality,” the expert said.
While some people love to say that opposites attract, they likely don’t mean extroverts and introverts, as Dr. Seltzer believes that it is much easier for introverted people to befriend likeminded individuals than it is their extroverted counterparts.
“The latter alternative makes little sense to me. It’s much more challenging to befriend someone whose views differ significantly from yours. And the phrase ‘opposites attract’ is one that’s used predominantly in a romantic context, and certainly isn’t limited to the introversion/extroversion aspect of personality,” the expert said.
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