Just because something is legal doesn’t make it ethical. And just because society accepts orrejectscertain things doesn’t automatically make them objectively right or wrong. No society is ever ‘perfect’ and there will always be aspects of it that could stand to be improved. However, some widely accepted things are so toxic that it’s a wonder how they ever became commonplace.Redditor u/Nebulaud recentlyaskedthe AskReddit community to share thesocial normsthat they personally think deserve to disappear from the world, for good. Many internet users rushed to vent their frustrations, and we’ve collected their most interesting takes. Scroll down to check them out, and if you agree with any of these opinions, give them an upvote.Bored Pandareached out to the author of the important discussion,u/Nebulaud, for their thoughts on shifting social norms, the most problematic things that are accepted that shouldn’t be, as well as how to have a healthier work-life balance. You’ll find our full interview with them as you read on.This post may includeaffiliate links.
Just because something is legal doesn’t make it ethical. And just because society accepts orrejectscertain things doesn’t automatically make them objectively right or wrong. No society is ever ‘perfect’ and there will always be aspects of it that could stand to be improved. However, some widely accepted things are so toxic that it’s a wonder how they ever became commonplace.
Redditor u/Nebulaud recentlyaskedthe AskReddit community to share thesocial normsthat they personally think deserve to disappear from the world, for good. Many internet users rushed to vent their frustrations, and we’ve collected their most interesting takes. Scroll down to check them out, and if you agree with any of these opinions, give them an upvote.
Bored Pandareached out to the author of the important discussion,u/Nebulaud, for their thoughts on shifting social norms, the most problematic things that are accepted that shouldn’t be, as well as how to have a healthier work-life balance. You’ll find our full interview with them as you read on.
This post may includeaffiliate links.
The one where women don’t get to decide what to do with their own uteruses.
“At first, I thought that giving your child unrestricted access to a tablet as an excuse to rarely pay attention to them was a rare thing, but I kept seeing it happen more and more. It describes my childhood, but I now often see small children and toddlers watch things that are clearly too disturbing to be consumed at such a young age.”
They gave an example that they think is particularly problematic: “The current big thing is Sprunki, which is a bait-and-switch horror Incredibox mod with colorful characters that devolves into a gory hellscape once you get to Black. An interesting concept, but not one suitable for the children that YouTube pushes it towards with its algorithms,” they explained.
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Having a bigger problem with the victim who’s complaining than the perpetrator who’s behaving badly.
Not accepting aging. 20-year-old girls shouldn’t be getting ‘preventative Botox,’ and actresses showing signs of aging shouldn’t lose jobs. ‘Aging like milk’ shouldn’t be a saying at all. Normalize aging in general.
From u/Nebulaud’s perspective, social norms should benefit the society they are in. “If they start causing more harm than good, lose their purpose, or were never good in the first place, then they should go instead of remain as an annoying husk,” they told us.
“Ones that I hate but weren’t in the thread are children being viewed as subhumans unworthy of respect, changing your mind being viewed as shameful, being expected to be fully informed of and take a side on every political issue you never heard of, automatically hating people you don’t understand, and mental health being viewed as expendable.”
In the US, tipping.
“Respect your elders"An elderly ae is still an ae.
Working beyond your assigned work hours. If I arrive on time, I should be able to leave on time. Ofcourse, a bit of stretch every once in a while is okay but this hustle culture of working 18 hours a day and wearing pride in eyes that look like they have been smacked hard and nice - this norm needs to be challenged and eradicated for good.
Bored Panda asked u/Nebulaud for their thoughts on developing better boundaries and a healthier work-life balance. “If you can, find ways to permanently make work easier. Find more efficient tools and techniques that help cut out the grind or make working less complicated. However, do not do too much at once unless you’re ok with the company possibly increasing your workload. Try to reduce the mental labor,” they shared.Something else to consider is figuring out a “plan B job in case you get fired or your job gets too bad to continue.” It might be worth doing this even if you don’t have to use it, as “it will boost your confidence because you have a possible safety net.“The author had some more practical advice that all employees should keep in mind. “If a boss is particularly bad, document what they do wrong and send it to the higher-ups or HR if your company actually has a good one. If you are talking to a higher-up, mention both the proof of abuse and how the boss’s misbehavior is reducing efficiency, thus costing money. If the boss breaks the law, also involve the respective government agency.”
Bored Panda asked u/Nebulaud for their thoughts on developing better boundaries and a healthier work-life balance. “If you can, find ways to permanently make work easier. Find more efficient tools and techniques that help cut out the grind or make working less complicated. However, do not do too much at once unless you’re ok with the company possibly increasing your workload. Try to reduce the mental labor,” they shared.
Something else to consider is figuring out a “plan B job in case you get fired or your job gets too bad to continue.” It might be worth doing this even if you don’t have to use it, as “it will boost your confidence because you have a possible safety net.”
The author had some more practical advice that all employees should keep in mind. “If a boss is particularly bad, document what they do wrong and send it to the higher-ups or HR if your company actually has a good one. If you are talking to a higher-up, mention both the proof of abuse and how the boss’s misbehavior is reducing efficiency, thus costing money. If the boss breaks the law, also involve the respective government agency.”
Sharing everything in your life online for strangers to look at.
Men not having/ showing emotions.
Saying “boys will be boys.”.
People’s relationship with theirjobsis an excruciating point for many of them. What employees want is fairly easy to grasp but hard to implement in practice: purposeful and meaningful work, a salary you can live on with dignity, career opportunities, a decent work-life balance, friendly colleagues, and an empathetic boss, to name just a few.Instead, many workers have to fight against burnout, anxiety, overtime, toxic workplace environments, and being undervalued and underpaid. It’s no wonder that many people feel demotivated about their jobs and the entire work industry as a whole.If you can barely make ends meet and have no time or energy left to be with your loved ones or to enjoy life, then what exactly is the point of working hard? People understandably get frustrated when the balance is skewed in others’ favor instead of their own.Burnout essentially means that employees feel chronicallyexhausted, distance themselves from their work, and become negative or cynical about their jobs. In short, poorly managed workplace stress leads to reduced professional efficacy, according to the World Health Organization.
People’s relationship with theirjobsis an excruciating point for many of them. What employees want is fairly easy to grasp but hard to implement in practice: purposeful and meaningful work, a salary you can live on with dignity, career opportunities, a decent work-life balance, friendly colleagues, and an empathetic boss, to name just a few.
Instead, many workers have to fight against burnout, anxiety, overtime, toxic workplace environments, and being undervalued and underpaid. It’s no wonder that many people feel demotivated about their jobs and the entire work industry as a whole.
If you can barely make ends meet and have no time or energy left to be with your loved ones or to enjoy life, then what exactly is the point of working hard? People understandably get frustrated when the balance is skewed in others’ favor instead of their own.
Burnout essentially means that employees feel chronicallyexhausted, distance themselves from their work, and become negative or cynical about their jobs. In short, poorly managed workplace stress leads to reduced professional efficacy, according to the World Health Organization.
Asking women when/if they’re going to have children or if they want children. It’s such a personal question that I’m surprised people still ask.
Forcing kids to hug or show affection to relatives they’re uncomfortable with. Teaching boundaries and consent from a young age is way more important than avoiding a moment of awkwardness at family gatherings.
Tablets for little kids. We need to keep screen time to a minimum for all the little beans. It is disrupting their brain.
Employees who are burned out don’t just do worse professionally, they are also more often absent from their jobs, have lower job satisfaction, and can struggle with long-term physical and mental health problems.The American Psychological Associationstatesthat in 2021, 79% of employees reported work-related stress in the month before the survey. Meanwhile, over half of the respondents said that this work-related stress had negative impacts on them, such as a lack of interest/motivation/energy (26%), as well as a lack of effort at work (19%).
Employees who are burned out don’t just do worse professionally, they are also more often absent from their jobs, have lower job satisfaction, and can struggle with long-term physical and mental health problems.
The American Psychological Associationstatesthat in 2021, 79% of employees reported work-related stress in the month before the survey. Meanwhile, over half of the respondents said that this work-related stress had negative impacts on them, such as a lack of interest/motivation/energy (26%), as well as a lack of effort at work (19%).
Being guilted into being ‘the bigger person to keep the peace’ - you shouldn’t have to sacrifice your own peace for someone else’s.
Being expected to be ‘available’ at all times. Work chasing you home, work messages at all hours of the day and night.Messages on vacation, sick days etc.
Weddings.Wedding culture under late stage capitalism is insane. Let’s normalize not asking your friends and family to shell out thousands of dollars or go into debt out of obligation. What happened to going to a local bar for a bachelorette party? Why are we planning 5 day trips to Miami?
Furthermore, 36% of workers said they experienced cognitive weariness, 32% revealed that they were emotionally exhausted, and 44% reported physical fatigue.Meanwhile, SHRM’s EmployeeMental Healthin 2024 Research Seriesrevealedthat 44% of American employees feel burned out at work. 45% feel emotionally drained and 51% actually feel ‘used up’ at the end of their workday.Burned-out workers are thrice as likely to be actively looking for another job than employees who don’t suffer from burnout. On top of that, burnout means that a person is less likely to go above and beyond what’s expected of them at work.
Furthermore, 36% of workers said they experienced cognitive weariness, 32% revealed that they were emotionally exhausted, and 44% reported physical fatigue.
Meanwhile, SHRM’s EmployeeMental Healthin 2024 Research Seriesrevealedthat 44% of American employees feel burned out at work. 45% feel emotionally drained and 51% actually feel ‘used up’ at the end of their workday.
Burned-out workers are thrice as likely to be actively looking for another job than employees who don’t suffer from burnout. On top of that, burnout means that a person is less likely to go above and beyond what’s expected of them at work.
Overpriced engagement rings.
Looking at your phone while talking to other people.
Never speak ill of the dead.
“If you consider how many workers are feeling burned out and the direct and indirect effects burnout has on an organization, it should really raise a red flag to organizational leaders,” explained senior SHRM researcher Daroon Jalil.According to SHRM, some ways to address burnout include staying optimistic throughout anychallengesyou face, giving yourself some credit, reframing your perceptions and expectations, limiting your demands, and leading ahealthy lifestyle.
“If you consider how many workers are feeling burned out and the direct and indirect effects burnout has on an organization, it should really raise a red flag to organizational leaders,” explained senior SHRM researcher Daroon Jalil.
According to SHRM, some ways to address burnout include staying optimistic throughout anychallengesyou face, giving yourself some credit, reframing your perceptions and expectations, limiting your demands, and leading ahealthy lifestyle.
Demanding new hires have experience for entry level jobs that would give them said experience. Obviously, plenty of jobs must require prior experience, but many of the ones that do, really don’t.
Not talking about your pay to coworkers.
Everything always needing to be positive.
Calling ambitious women “bossy.”.
Work coming before mental health.
Tipping on self checkout/retail/fast food just because the iPad told you to. Also not putting a custom tip when the options are 30%, 40% and 50% of the post tax total.
Lip fillers, Botox, artificial eyebrows and other manufactured “beauty”. It’s too much pressure on young people and creating a superficial anti aging agenda instead of balanced wellness and healthy attitudes.
Sharing the most personal things, CRINGIEST and stupid stuff for the sole purpose of getting views on social media.
40 hour work week. It’s high time for 4 day, 32 hours work weeks.
Gendering chores.
Overconsumption. I think mindful consumption is so important. Yes, you can spend money on things but I think it should be things you really really value. It clutters up your mindspace, your home environment and the environment environment. There are so many ways to get your dopamine rush. Like you can even buy really quality clothes second hand on poshmark and the real real and they can be priced at shein and aliexpress prices but way better quality and elongates the garment’s life. I personally got into social work and also volunteering in my own time and I just don’t have a need for endless things anymore.
Toxic positivity. I struggle to find spaces where I can let my problems out so I can get help.
“Man up” mentality.
Assuming elders hate tech.
Shaking hands probably isn’t the best idea. There’s a shameful number of people who don’t wash their hands after using the toilet.
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There are a few that come to mind:Having kids - not everyone wants themTipping - pay your workers a living wageEntry level jobs that require years of experience.
People paying it forward in drive-thrus. You order a soda and end up paying 50 for someone else.
Paying for someone else on a first date.
Judging mental health struggles.
Pressure to post on social media.
Telling people you’re doing okay when they ask how you’re doing when you’re not doing okay. F**k that.Person 1: How are you today?Person 2: S****y, how you doing?
Dismissing feelings as “too sensitive.”.
Getting sh*tfaced every weekend in your late teens and early 20’s.
The “friend zone” complaint.
I feel like a lot of things are outdate rn. But the one which triggers me the most, is that you have to be extremely polite when talking about money. Like, you get asked - “How much do you want to earn from this job”, and you cannot just say a number straight up, you have to write a whole essay in the end of which you will be able to actually answer the question. And if you don’t do it, everyone thinks that you are not polite.Like what’s the problem? Money were invented to be used, the way they are used. Why can’t we just get straight to the point?
Assuming women wear makeup daily.
Glossing over bad bosses.
Ignoring workplace burnout.
Shaming online daters.
“Real job” stereotypes.
Assuming marriage is a goal.
Having work be your identity. The first thing many people ask when meeting someone is “what do you do?”.
Saying things you don’t mean to be polite (such as as let’s hang out sometime).
Romanticizing being broke.
Assuming all men love cars.
Hugging strangers.
Judging how people spend money.
Ignoring workplace diversity.
Saying “bless you” after someone sneezes. I haven’t said it in probably 20 years and I encourage everyone to stop immediately. Let’s make this happen.
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