If you are seeking to better yourself, you need guidance. Luckily, there are countless sources of wisdom to draw from, sometimes found in readily accessible places, too.
So when we stumbled acrossa fewRedditdiscussionswhere people have been sharing the best advice they have ever received, we decided to do our part and spread the word.
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“Advice is good when it is specific to your situation and considers long-term consequences,” Staples shared withBored Panda.
“It should also support your personal values, provide you with an idea you didn’t already have, and be clear exactly what you’re supposed to do with it.”
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When my dad passed away someone told me, “I’m sure you hear a lot of people saying how sorry they are and stuff like that. So I won’t tell you that, I will tell you this. Your dad may have passed from this world but he’s still alive in your memories, alive in the people’s lives he’s influenced, talked to, and met. He’s alive in you, your family, and your friends. He’s alive going forward because he’ll influence your future kid’s lives, he’ll influence your life going forward. Your will to live might be broken right now but you have to for your dad, your mom, and your family. Keep his memory alive because a person dies twice. Once in the real world and once when they are remembered for the last time. Make sure that last time isn’t in your life span.”That really helped me through some dark times.
“You wouldn’t care what people think of you if you knew how seldom they do.”.
However, “Advice can also be bad, and some advice can be good in one context but not another,” Staples added.“For example, many an infuriated millennial has complained about their boomer parents advising them to ‘Show up and ask the employers if they have any jobs in person! It will leave an impression!’ But maybe that’s not the impression they’re going for. That advice applied to the parents' situation but doesn’t apply now.““Advice can also be bad if it’s based on flawed information or doesn’t account for long-term risks. Exercise caution if, for example, someone seems just a little too excited about Bitcoin.” Otherwise, you might lose your savings in a pump-and-dump scheme.
However, “Advice can also be bad, and some advice can be good in one context but not another,” Staples added.
“For example, many an infuriated millennial has complained about their boomer parents advising them to ‘Show up and ask the employers if they have any jobs in person! It will leave an impression!’ But maybe that’s not the impression they’re going for. That advice applied to the parents' situation but doesn’t apply now.”
“Advice can also be bad if it’s based on flawed information or doesn’t account for long-term risks. Exercise caution if, for example, someone seems just a little too excited about Bitcoin.” Otherwise, you might lose your savings in a pump-and-dump scheme.
Don’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm.
Be the person you needed growing up.
Remember when you are fighting with your partner it is not you vs them. It’s you both vs the problem. Doesnt matter if one of you is right, fix the problem.Alternatively, I was told once, after considering myself a fairly honorable man, when I did something wrong, a friend told me “being a good man isnt a thing. It’s a journey”.
Researchhas demonstrated that we are likely to favor our own judgment over others' advice, especially when we don’t know those people. And that’s not necessarily a problem because Staples believes the source of the advice is pretty darn important.“You need to know: 1) Can you trust the intentions of the person giving the advice—do they actually want to be helpful? 2) What are they claiming to know, and how do they know it? (Life experience? Citable sources?) And 3) do they understand your situation well enough to have an opinion?“So don’t worry if some of these entries don’t apply to you!
Researchhas demonstrated that we are likely to favor our own judgment over others' advice, especially when we don’t know those people. And that’s not necessarily a problem because Staples believes the source of the advice is pretty darn important.
“You need to know: 1) Can you trust the intentions of the person giving the advice—do they actually want to be helpful? 2) What are they claiming to know, and how do they know it? (Life experience? Citable sources?) And 3) do they understand your situation well enough to have an opinion?”
So don’t worry if some of these entries don’t apply to you!
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Marriage isn’t 50/50. It’s 100/100. You don’t split duties and responsibilities. You both give your all, regardless of how much your spouse is giving.There will be times when they won’t give as much, out of sickness or sadness or whatever reason. Instead of feeling like they should do more, just pick up the slack. There will be times when you can’t do your share either.Dishes need doing? Do them.Instead of asking whether they’re doing enough, ask if you can do more. Serve them. Give them yourself. If both people do this, it will be a happy marriage.
Buy a plunger before you need a plunger.
If you lend someone your pen for a minute, don’t give them the lid. You’ll always get your pen back.
Don’t recall where I heard this but…“If you’re the smartest person in the room, you’re in the wrong room”The people who you surround yourself with especially in your young adult life will have a profound impact on the rest of your adulthood.Surrounding yourself with driven and intelligent people will influence you positively.
Being an electrician working in industries: “trust no one.“If the process operator is convinced that the power is shut off, go and see it for yourself.If a trainee tells you he has tightened all and any bolts and screws, go and see it for yourself.If your foreman sounds convincing enough that the materials for the job are ordered, go and see it for yourself.It’s a philosophy not for sowing mistrust, but to ensure you can do your job properly and safely.
Nothing is awkward until you convince yourself that it is.
“Once you learn something, no one can take it away from you”.It really resonated with me, since I grew up with instability and uncertainty.
It will still be here tomorrow.Wisdom from my boss on having a huge to-do list at work and not stressing over it. Get done what you can today, what you don’t finish will be there to work on tomorrow and you don’t need to take the mental baggage of having a big to-do list home with you.
Close your mouth and open your ears, nobody hears if everyone is talking, you’ll be amazed at what you learn.
Control the controllable, let the rest go.
My dad once told me, half jokingly, that “Live Fast Die Young doesn’t work if you don’t die young.” He has a bunch of health problems now due to not taking care of himself when he was younger. It really opened my eyes to how the way I treat my body now will have repercussions decades in the future. After hearing that phrase and seeing his health issues accumulate, I’ve started eating much healthier and exercising more frequently.
Always underpromise and overdeliver.
Always keep the utilities, lease, and vehicle in your name, and have a bank account in your name only. That way, no matter what goes sideways in your relationship, or how badly, nobody can put you and your kids out, turn off the heat or water, etc.
“Either you can accept your situation or change it.”I had a really tough time making friends freshman year of high school, and I’d come home crying to my mom every day because I was so lonely. She let me cry for a bit and then told me this. The next day I went to school and started talking to people, because I figured I had nothing to lose. I apply it to so much now, either I have to fix what’s bothering me or I have to accept it and move on, wallowing around feeling sorry for myself was unhealthy and not beneficial in the least.
When i was a kid my dad told me four important words. Know when to quit.
If you can afford to pay a professional to do something, you do it.That way, if something goes wrong, your wife can blame them instead of you.My late father-in-law.
Always know their will be a second kid on a bike coming around a curve after the first on a road while you are driving.
An old guy once told me “once you reach 60, never waste a boner or trust a fart.”.
Measure twice, cut once.I actually sometimes recall the moment my uncle told me that in a conversation when I was maybe 13 or 14. I think we were talking about it literally, cause I did have a woodworking class in school at the time.It has helped me be more cautious when doing certain things though. Like when doing a task where I can’t redo it if I f**k up, I’ll be super super careful at each stage to be very aware of what’s going on.
Wear a condom.
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“Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift” -Master Oogway.
“Don’t be an idiot.” Before I’m about to do something I think, “would an idiot do that?” And if they would, I do not do that thing.”.
Take the time and make the effort to figure out your boundaries. I wish so many people did this.
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Never give out money you expect to return.
The best place to find a helping hand is at the end of your arm.Start there.
Never write a letter and send when you are angry. In fact, don’t write anything down that likely will come back and bite you on the ae. Be circumspect when faced with rage and for fk’s sake say please and thank you.- My Mum.
At my graduation party, we had those little advice cards that people write on and the put in a box for the graduate to read later on. My grandmother’s was the simplest, but it’s also the only one I kept and still turn to frequently. “Do what makes you happy”.
Love, trust and respect is what you need in a quality long term relationship. ALL have to be present and they have to be MUTUAL. (My mum).
If you wouldn’t let the people you despise living in your house, why let them live in your head?Edit: yeah, I get it, sometimes is not that simple. Some persons are in hard situations because of their parents and can’t leave the house. Honestly for these kind of situations you only can wait and be strong.And if you can’t, seek for help from other persons. Don’t let it drown you.
Unless you’re a rockstar in your field, your connections at work are most likely going to present the best opportunities for you down the line. Networking matters.
Treat things as an opportunity not an expectation.If you’re expecting a certain outcome then you’ll generally be disappointed but if you are looking at it as an opportunity for things to go one way or another you’ll usually be happier with the outcome and not stress over it if it’s negative.It’s a lot easier to see silver linings or benefits in things when you’re not expecting the outcome to be a certainty and you’ll be a lot more appreciate of said outcomes when you’re not already starting at a benchmark.
ALWAYS check for milk before you pour your cereal.
Nobody else’s opinion truly matters, because they are not the one living in your body.
Act like a doormat, don’t be surprised that you get stepped on all the time.
Sucking is the first step to being ok at something.
If you want to be successful at any job, you need 2 out of these 3 things; show up on time, be nice to people at your work and be good at your job.
Someone told me to ask myself, What is the best use of my time right now?
Walk with purpose.
I got one that’s less “deep” than the others here.“$1 saved today is worth more than $1 saved 10 years later”.
If you’re going to do it wrong, you might as well do it right.
If you think you can or you can’t, you’re right.
Stop forcing s**t, just let it happen.
- Hold your own standards high and the standards of the people you surround yourself with higher. That way you avoid wasting time on people who wouldn’t treat as great as you treat them.2. Always surround yourself with people who are better than yourself, more intellectual, more athletic, quicker etc., that way your peers challenge you to improve yourself rather than you begin to believe you are the best you can be.
I see now that the circumstances of one’s birth are irrelevant. It is what you do with the gift of life that determines who you are – Mewtwo.
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