Family and relationships always remain one of the most important aspects in the lives of each of us, so it is not surprising that choosing a partner - a person who will be with us throughout our lives (in an ideal case, of course), is so important. Otherwise, you cannot avoid angry or simply disappointed posts in the AITA Reddit community…
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Being funny. I met a woman recently who did different voices to describe an interaction she’d had. It was so charming and entertaining.
If they have a similar sense of humor to mine and get my jokes and can make funny jokes themselves. Able to laugh at themselves and not take themselves to seriously. I swoon every time. That s***s more important than looks. Looks fade, personality lasts forever.
Deliberately dancing badly when a bad song is being played.Almost any woman can dance well or dance sexily but to openly clown around like that is far more attractive.That’s what actually attracted me to my wife. I later found out she wasn’t trying to be funny, she was just really bad at dancing.
Her being an animal person. I’ve had multiple pets my whole life so it’s pretty much a requirement for me to be in a relationship with someone.Also if she’s the type of person that doesn’t play mind games and is direct about how she feels.
Humour, geekiness, mischief, artistic ability, storytelling ability.That’s how I knew my wife was the one.
If they love to read, as it’s something that’s deeply attractive since very few people I know are avid readers.That and a good sense of humor, especially dark humor :D
So, speaking of short-term partners, among women in this survey the leader is ‘attractive face’, then kindness and confidence. For men, accordingly, the most important factors here are ‘attractive body’ and ‘attractive face’ - that is, mainly physical features. Yes, the criteria vary greatly, but sometimes it happens that short-term relationships develop into long-term ones - and then we desperately wonder why the person with whom it was so good at the beginning turns out to be completely different in the long run…
Intelligence and charisma.Having a good talk with a woman has always been a huge turn on for me. I never understood clubbing hookups, doesn’t give me anything, drunk people are a mess…
Quick wit. If she can drop a smart/funny comment in the middle of a conversation, I am in love.
Apparently , my bf was blown away that I cook.He is used to dating party girls. Skinny, really pretty, club-scene girls that like to do some molly & coke on the weekends and go wild.Me? Im a single mom and im coming out of a 10 year marriage.No idea wtf he sees in me.
“In fact, all these criteria that people love to talk about are all great, but often things don’t work like that at all,” says Irina Matveeva, apsychologist and certified NLP specialist from Ukraine, whom Bored Panda asked for a comment here . “You always need to remember two things. First, we are not choosing a new car or smartphone, and in the case of relationships, all impeccable logical reasonings often go straight to hell. Secondly, it can always happen that the perfect match, as it seems from our side, doesn’t look like that at all from the side of a possible partner.”“Some writer… unfortunately, I don’t remember who exactly, once wrote a wise phrase that our psyche is nothing more than an accidental coating on the endocrine glands. So everything we think about and logically justify when we are asked about choosing a partner can always be thrown aside as soon as we feel that very incredible feeling… In the end, love does not ask us when to come,” Irina summarizes.
“In fact, all these criteria that people love to talk about are all great, but often things don’t work like that at all,” says Irina Matveeva, apsychologist and certified NLP specialist from Ukraine, whom Bored Panda asked for a comment here . “You always need to remember two things. First, we are not choosing a new car or smartphone, and in the case of relationships, all impeccable logical reasonings often go straight to hell. Secondly, it can always happen that the perfect match, as it seems from our side, doesn’t look like that at all from the side of a possible partner.”
“Some writer… unfortunately, I don’t remember who exactly, once wrote a wise phrase that our psyche is nothing more than an accidental coating on the endocrine glands. So everything we think about and logically justify when we are asked about choosing a partner can always be thrown aside as soon as we feel that very incredible feeling… In the end, love does not ask us when to come,” Irina summarizes.
Hugs
My lady will drop new vocab words on me sometimes and I swoon.
Being a good person. I was really into this girl who seemed kind and generous, she did some fundraisers for disadvantaged people and stuff like that which made her seem like she would be a really good partner. But then Australia had a referendum on whether or not gay people should be allowed to get married, and she said she was going to vote no because they were unnatural. Immediate turn off.
The ability to enjoy themselves. Not always needing something to complain about. Actually happy.
A capable woman who does what she does well.
Cute aberrations, like imperfect teeth or messy hair.
Liking Geek/Nerd stuff. I’m telling ya ladies if you’re wondering where the good men are, consider dating a geek
The way she looks at you. Eyes are my weakness.
I like a woman’s mind, her personality. Being transgressive and creative is very appealing. Being comfortable in who she is. A woman who can just throw on some old clothes and go on an unscripted adventure.
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actually caring about me.
I’ll need to see a Spotify playlist thanks.
Not sexual, but still physical: an emotive face.Nose scrunch. Active eyebrows. Playful smirk.
Clear idea of what she wants out of life beyond a relationship.
If she’s an Intelligent conversationalist. Able to talk about a myriad of topics from anthropology to digital systems integration, and everything in between. Opinionated but not argumentative.I want to be around you.
Freckles.
Smiles. It was how my wife smiled that made me take interest in her.For most guys, nothing is more attractive than a woman who smiles or laughs with them.
their ear, tucking their hair behind them.I’m not sure why. Simply… HHHNNNGGGGH
Glasses
Driving manual transmission
Any girl that plays the guitar. I find it super hot for some reason
no makeup and flat shoes
Her voice is definetly one
Athleticism.
I would like to say some form of energy exists. An aura perhaps. There are without question particular women amongst a sea of them that distinctly draw my attention, just for the passing moment. It is observable that it is not some ultra superior beauty. It is just some. I cannot describe it.I encountered one woman the other day on an elevator and for some unknown reason her energy just melted through my defenses. Stared so deep into her eyes while we briefly interacted that I didn’t see her name badge or remember what exactly her face looked like. I was clearly of higher charisma and libido from the moment I walked in her vicinity. There was nothing sexual about it. A day or two later, like an after shock from an earthquake, I found myself pulled to a sudden sense of pursuing her. I’ve never seen her since and don’t even know if I would recognize her. It completely shifted my demeanor though.I have moments like these, though not as pronounced as that, with various women I walk past. Never figured it out. It is a refreshing sensation though. Maybe it is pheromones. Maybe women have superpowers.
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