Life’s hard punches shape us into tough cookies, that’s true, but honestly, life could ease up a bit, couldn’t it? It’s like the universe has a PhD in “tough love," handing out lessons left and right to people who’ve “been through it.”Recently, a Redditor threw out the question, “What’s a sign someone has been through tough times?” And, oh boy, the answers came flying in like unsolicited advice at awedding. From turning to stone emotionally to being empathetic to a fault, people spilled the tea on how life’s kicks and punches leave their mark.More info:RedditThis post may includeaffiliate links.
Life’s hard punches shape us into tough cookies, that’s true, but honestly, life could ease up a bit, couldn’t it? It’s like the universe has a PhD in “tough love," handing out lessons left and right to people who’ve “been through it.”
Recently, a Redditor threw out the question, “What’s a sign someone has been through tough times?” And, oh boy, the answers came flying in like unsolicited advice at awedding. From turning to stone emotionally to being empathetic to a fault, people spilled the tea on how life’s kicks and punches leave their mark.
More info:Reddit
This post may includeaffiliate links.
They don’t ask for help, because people have let them down a lot.
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They have the ability to turn to stone at the snap.of a finger. Any past emotions, just gone.
Emotional scars can feel like carrying a suitcase full of rocks, but they’re also evidence of survival, growth, and grit. Resilience isn’t about being the person who floats through life untouched – it’s about bouncing back, adapting, and thriving, even if life feels like an emotional gladiator arena sometimes.Think of it like that one plant in your house that thrives no matter how many days you forget to water it. Don’t pretend you don’t know which one I’m talking about.
Emotional scars can feel like carrying a suitcase full of rocks, but they’re also evidence of survival, growth, and grit. Resilience isn’t about being the person who floats through life untouched – it’s about bouncing back, adapting, and thriving, even if life feels like an emotional gladiator arena sometimes.
Think of it like that one plant in your house that thrives no matter how many days you forget to water it. Don’t pretend you don’t know which one I’m talking about.
Zero tolerance for drama, b******t and toxic behaviour.They’re more likely to just walk away from friendships and relationships at the first sign.
We lose it over little things because we aren’t allowed to lose it over big things. Surprisingly reliable during high-stakes chaos but a tiny small thing will send us spiralling for days.
When I think about resilience, I remember my friend who bounced back after losing her job. She didn’t just adapt; she launched her dream business. Theproslike to define resilience as “the process and outcome of successfully adapting to difficult or challenging life experiences, especially through mental, emotional, and behavioral flexibility.”Basically, it’s like upgrading your inner software to handle life’s glitches. And there are signs of when that happens. Like one netizen noticed that when folks go through tough times, they don’t really trust other people. Can’t say I blame them.
When I think about resilience, I remember my friend who bounced back after losing her job. She didn’t just adapt; she launched her dream business. Theproslike to define resilience as “the process and outcome of successfully adapting to difficult or challenging life experiences, especially through mental, emotional, and behavioral flexibility.”
Basically, it’s like upgrading your inner software to handle life’s glitches. And there are signs of when that happens. Like one netizen noticed that when folks go through tough times, they don’t really trust other people. Can’t say I blame them.
Stubbornly independent because they don’t believe they can rely on anyone.
Unflappable. Nothing you could possible say could shock them. They appear to handle bad news well because of this, but it’s actually a shut down response.
Incredibly self aware, very open about some experiences, make jokes about trauma….Enough about me! How are you doing?
They tend to keep a lot of information about themselves locked up for fear of it being used against them.
But guess what? Resilience isn’t something you’re born with. It’s like sourdoughbread- you can build it from scratch with the right ingredients. Sure, genetics play a role, but much of it comes down to learned behaviors, mindset, and support system, which are basically yourpsychological immunity.Think of it as your mental bodyguard that steps in to protect your peace when life gets messy. Kind of like that onefriendwho drags you away from bad decisions at 2 a.m. The cooler thing? It’s trainable. Building psychological immunity means strengthening your ability to cope, adapt, and thrive, even when the world feels like it’s playing dodgeball with your emotions.
But guess what? Resilience isn’t something you’re born with. It’s like sourdoughbread- you can build it from scratch with the right ingredients. Sure, genetics play a role, but much of it comes down to learned behaviors, mindset, and support system, which are basically yourpsychological immunity.
Think of it as your mental bodyguard that steps in to protect your peace when life gets messy. Kind of like that onefriendwho drags you away from bad decisions at 2 a.m. The cooler thing? It’s trainable. Building psychological immunity means strengthening your ability to cope, adapt, and thrive, even when the world feels like it’s playing dodgeball with your emotions.
They are empathetic, kind and generous- because they get it.
In social situations they never ask people about their family. Mostly cuz they don’t want people asking them about theirs. That’s a new one my wife pointed out to me.
They apologize a lot for basically everything.
Cultivating self-awareness, humor, and emotional flexibility can help. So, basically, learning to laugh at yourself when you trip over your own feet is pretty much self-care. Just like one netizen noticed that people who’ve been through a lot are freakishly independent and develop boundaries tighter than airport security.
Tiredness constant exhaustion, physical or emotionally.
Sarcasm, thick skin, quick wit and dark humor.
They don’t like their birthdays celebrated.
The upside? Surviving tough situations often leaves you with superpowers like spotting red flags from a mile away and empathy levels that could melt glaciers.Toxicrelationships? Nope. Unnecessary drama? Hard pass. You’ve learned the ultimate lesson: protecting your peace is priceless.And if all else fails, just channel somekintsugienergy. You know, that Japanese art of repairing broken pottery with gold? It’s all about embracing the cracks because they make the piece even more stunning. So, if life leaves you with a few scars, wear them proudly. Those cracks are what make you uniquely, beautifully, unapologetically you.
The upside? Surviving tough situations often leaves you with superpowers like spotting red flags from a mile away and empathy levels that could melt glaciers.Toxicrelationships? Nope. Unnecessary drama? Hard pass. You’ve learned the ultimate lesson: protecting your peace is priceless.
And if all else fails, just channel somekintsugienergy. You know, that Japanese art of repairing broken pottery with gold? It’s all about embracing the cracks because they make the piece even more stunning. So, if life leaves you with a few scars, wear them proudly. Those cracks are what make you uniquely, beautifully, unapologetically you.
They instantly click with other people who have been through a lot of st before even realising the other person has been through a lot of stNo seriously it’s like a sensor.
A great sense of humor. You have to find a way out of the darkness so many use humor as a coping mechanism.
Socially distant, not trusting of anyone.
They seem to wait for bad things to happen and can’t imagine a good or normal outcome.
Keeping themself distant from everyone. Not opening up.
Always checking that you’re ok, so they know they haven’t done anything wrong or upset you somehow.
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Can’t take a compliment because to them thats the start of manipulation. Also don’t like gifts becuase they come with strings usually and they aren’t prepared to have something else come back at them because they “accepted” the gifts.Also likely fiercely independant, although you get the ones that go the other way and are too scared to do anything alone.
Their eyes don’t sparkle yet they are the kindest souls to ANYONE and EVERYONE.
The eyes are a pretty good indicator. “Been through s**t eyes” seems to be a thing.
Extreme self-awareness is often present. Empathy and effort to understand as well.
People who laugh and seem happy,try to make others laugh i believe can hide a lot of things behind that mask.
I’ve been through a lot of c**p. I get suspicious of the intentions of people unless I’ve been with them for a reasonable amount of time.
Someone told me I looked defeated the other day. Damn. Does it show that bad?
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