30 Women Infuriated The Internet By Sharing Pics Of Their Partners’ Weaponized Incompetence

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Husband’s Bedside Table That I Am Making A Point Of Not Doing For Him

Dirty socks on the floor, unwashed dishes in the sink, dust balls forming in the corners of the room—these are just a few examples of things that tend to pile up if a person fails to tidy up after themselves or do a regular clean up. And while it’s clear that not everyone is equally eager to clean their home, most would agree that the majority of adults are at least capable of taking care of such mundane tasks.Yet some people don’t, and not because they don’t know how to, but because they don’t feel like it; and that’s when weaponized incompetence comes into play. Also known as strategic incompetence, the term refers to the deliberate feigning of incompetence in order to avoid certain tasks or responsibilities, typically resulting in situations like the ones depicted on this list.

Yet some people don’t, and not because they don’t know how to, but because they don’t feel like it; and that’s when weaponized incompetence comes into play. Also known as strategic incompetence, the term refers to the deliberate feigning of incompetence in order to avoid certain tasks or responsibilities, typically resulting in situations like the ones depicted on this list.

How My Boyfriend Packed Up A Moving Box With Kitchen Stuff While I Was At Work

When My Husband Puts The Dishes Away

According to Forbes, weaponized incompetence might seem benign, but in reality, it can accentuate the often unequal division of chores between partners even more and lead to long-term negative effects on their relationship.Finding themselves in such a situation, those exposed to their partner’s strategic incompetence might say that when they ask for help, they often have to explain things in great detail or eventually (re)do it themselves. Situations like these are likely to strain the relationship, as shifting nearly all the responsibility onto one set of shoulders tends to lead to stress and other detrimental consequences.

Finding themselves in such a situation, those exposed to their partner’s strategic incompetence might say that when they ask for help, they often have to explain things in great detail or eventually (re)do it themselves. Situations like these are likely to strain the relationship, as shifting nearly all the responsibility onto one set of shoulders tends to lead to stress and other detrimental consequences.

Husband Put His Pants Right Beside The Laundry Basket Instead Of Just In It

My Husband Carries Doughnuts Vertically

This Is How My Husband Opens The Bread If I Don’t Get To It First. Just Rips A Hole In The Bag And Leaves It Open Like This Too

Licensed marriage and family therapist Claudia de Llano seconds the idea that weaponized incompetence creates an imbalance in a romantic relationship, as one of the partners is forced to carry the majority of the load.“An imbalance of responsibilities can lead to conflicting feelings about the relationship,” she toldVeryWell Mind. “While you may love your partner and care about them, you may also grow frustrated and start to resent them for not helping out more.”Lacking support from your partner, even if in regards to something as mundane as taking care of the dishes, might lead to bigger problems over time, such as trust and communication issues or emotional disconnection.

“An imbalance of responsibilities can lead to conflicting feelings about the relationship,” she toldVeryWell Mind. “While you may love your partner and care about them, you may also grow frustrated and start to resent them for not helping out more.”

Lacking support from your partner, even if in regards to something as mundane as taking care of the dishes, might lead to bigger problems over time, such as trust and communication issues or emotional disconnection.

My Adult Boyfriend Thinks This Counts As Clean (No That’s Not Rust)

Came To The Kitchen To Find Out That My Boyfriend Hung The Towel Like This

Found My Husband’s Stash Of Empty Wrappers

Be it picking up socks, doing the dishes, or any other seemingly mundane task, some people might take frustratingly long taking care of it; sometimes purposefully so. According to the relationship coachJohn Kenny, also known as the Relationship Guy, when it comes to weaponized incompetence, doing something in a way that aggravates, irritates, or upsets one’s partner and eventually gets them to step in is the end goal. “It is a passive-aggressive way of getting someone to do something that you just, well, really don’t want to do.”

My Husband Put This Much Milk Back In The Fridge

How My Husband Wrote The Date That He Opened This Orange Juice

When Your Husband Does The Laundry

The relationship expert emphasized that sometimes people are genuinely incapable of doing certain things for one reason or another, no matter how seemingly primitive they are; that’s when it’s important to be patient and show empathy. However, if these scenarios continue to repeat themselves, such behavior can become a manipulative tool used to get (out of) what they want, tolerating which might not be a good idea.

My Husband Bought Memory Foam For “His Side Of The Bed”

The Way My Husband Unpacked The Book Boxes

How My Husband Stacks Plates And Platters

Things that seemingly frustrate people about their significant others even more, though, are the latter having selective hearing, snoring, being too controlling or not financially responsible enough.

The Way My Husband Wraps Gifts

The Only Thing I Asked For Was Hamburger Buns. Husband Comes Back With This And This Only

My Husband Puts This Much Food Back In The Fridge To Avoid Doing The Dish

According toGallup’s data, women tend to take care of a larger chunk of household chores, especially in regards to cooking, cleaning, taking care of the house and the children. (Though yard work and car maintenance remain primarily the men’s responsibilities.)That might be one of the reasons why married and cohabiting men seem to be more satisfied with the way household chores are divided between them and their partner. Back in 2020, as much as 55% of men were very satisfied with this aspect of their relationship, compared with 38% of their female counterparts,Pew Research Centerreports (marking an increase from 49% for the former and a decrease of 1% for the latter compared to 2019).

That might be one of the reasons why married and cohabiting men seem to be more satisfied with the way household chores are divided between them and their partner. Back in 2020, as much as 55% of men were very satisfied with this aspect of their relationship, compared with 38% of their female counterparts,Pew Research Centerreports (marking an increase from 49% for the former and a decrease of 1% for the latter compared to 2019).

The Way My Husband Stacks Up His Used Coffee Spoons In Our Spoon Rest, And Won’t Put Them In The Dishwasher!

How My Boyfriend Uses Cheese… I-

I Tore My Rotator Cuff So My Husband Told Me He’d Finish The Interior Painting On Our Downstairs. He Says He’s Done

Needless to say, not all male partners engage in weaponized incompetence; not only that, women are equally as capable of doing a bad job with certain chores, too, seeking to never have to do them ever again. But no matter who is behind this kind of behavior, chances are that in the long run, it won’t make the relationship any better for either of the people involved.

Husband Put Up The Groceries Today…

Recently Moved In With My Boyfriend Who Has A Habit Of Leaving His Clothes On The Floor, I Asked Him To Put His Jeans Away In His Closet And This Is What I Found Later

My Husband Leaving Car Like That Every Single Time I’m About To Use It

If you’re looking for more examples of weaponized incompetence, continue to ourprevious editionon the matter, browse through the most absurd cases of such incompetenceon this list, or listen tothis TikToker’sinsight as she delves deeper into what’s behind it.

My Husband Keeps Opening New Jars Of Jam Before He’s Even Finished The Last One

My Husband Throws Away Trash Directly Into The Pantry

Husband Attempted To Put The Silverware Away

The Way My Boyfriend Sliced This Avocado

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