There’s nothing better than being in a safe, loving relationship. You have a best friend, confidant and biggest fan all in one, and you never have to worry about scrolling through dating apps or creating a cringey profile ever again. As long as your relationship doesn’t crash and burn due to infidelity, that is…One2021 studyfound that between 30-60% of married individuals will cheat at some point, and 74% of men admitted that they would have an affair if they knew they wouldn’t be caught. So to remind all of you pandas out there that karma always catches up to cheaters, we’ve got some wild stories down below. Redditors have beendetailingthe craziest ways unfaithful partners have been caught in their lies, so enjoy scrolling through. And keep reading to find a conversation with Rebecca Williams, LMFT, Couples Therapy Expert and Owner ofInland Empire Couples Counseling!Image credits:marinababeokThis post may includeaffiliate links.
There’s nothing better than being in a safe, loving relationship. You have a best friend, confidant and biggest fan all in one, and you never have to worry about scrolling through dating apps or creating a cringey profile ever again. As long as your relationship doesn’t crash and burn due to infidelity, that is…
One2021 studyfound that between 30-60% of married individuals will cheat at some point, and 74% of men admitted that they would have an affair if they knew they wouldn’t be caught. So to remind all of you pandas out there that karma always catches up to cheaters, we’ve got some wild stories down below. Redditors have beendetailingthe craziest ways unfaithful partners have been caught in their lies, so enjoy scrolling through. And keep reading to find a conversation with Rebecca Williams, LMFT, Couples Therapy Expert and Owner ofInland Empire Couples Counseling!
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His mom called me to ask if we could put the cat inside while we were at her place, she saw my ex’s car in her driveway on her Ring camera and saw “us” go in. I was not with him, as he told me he was going to the grocery store. Turns out he was taking his side piece to his Mommy’s house while she was at work. She promptly sent me the video. She may have been a not so great MIL but she doesn’t play well with cheaters 😂
My Auntie heard from her hairstylist that her husband was cheating on her. She found the address of the affair partner and went on google earth. Her husbands truck was in the driveway when google earth had taken the picture.
To gain some insight on this topic from an expert, we reached out to Rebecca Williams, LMFT. Rebecca is a Couples Therapy Expert and the Owner ofInland Empire Couples Counselingin Southern California, offering online couples therapy and couples therapy retreats, and she was kind enough to have a chat withBored Pandaabout cheating.“It’s hard to say definitively how common cheating is because it’s something many people don’t talk about or don’t admit to,” Rebecca shared. “And not all couples or individuals have the same definition for what counts as cheating. We’ve seen survey results that report that 15-20% of people surveyed admitted to cheating.”
To gain some insight on this topic from an expert, we reached out to Rebecca Williams, LMFT. Rebecca is a Couples Therapy Expert and the Owner ofInland Empire Couples Counselingin Southern California, offering online couples therapy and couples therapy retreats, and she was kind enough to have a chat withBored Pandaabout cheating.
“It’s hard to say definitively how common cheating is because it’s something many people don’t talk about or don’t admit to,” Rebecca shared. “And not all couples or individuals have the same definition for what counts as cheating. We’ve seen survey results that report that 15-20% of people surveyed admitted to cheating.”
One of my exes told on himself, lol.I was trying to plan a surprise party for him, so I was definitely being secretive. I was excited, and on my phone a lot trying to organize everyone and finish preparations.He started acting weird (I expected it a little, all things considered). Then he was accusatory. I kept reassuring him and made little hints, but he lost his damn mind at one point. He kept escalating, and I was getting the feeling something was wrong.The night before the party, he confessed angrily. Said he knew I was cheating on him, but it’s okay because he had been f*****g his coworker for months. I just walked out. Told everyone to show up tomorrow anyway. Let them in, watched his face turn pale white, told him this was why I was secretive and I wished him well with his side piece in front of everyone, and left.It was awful, but man I’m so glad I found out. I didn’t suspect a thing, though I’ll admit I was overly trusting and naive in my past lol.
Wife went on a business trip that she SWORE was on her own. Called her hotel room late one night, no answer. Called the hotel front desk and asked if they could connect me to name-of-someone-she-worked-with, and they put me right through. He answered the phone, and when I told him to put her on, he handed it to her.
“What I do know is that itispossible for relationships to heal from cheating,” the expert continued. “You might be surprised to find out that there are people you know how have experienced infidelity in their relationships and recovered from it.““When a couple heals from infidelity and stays together, it’s not usually something they joke about over dinner with friends,” Rebecca added. “So if you’re in a place where your partner has cheated and you’re wondering if you’re crazy to want to stay, you’re not. Lots of couples are able to recover successfully.”
“What I do know is that itispossible for relationships to heal from cheating,” the expert continued. “You might be surprised to find out that there are people you know how have experienced infidelity in their relationships and recovered from it.”
“When a couple heals from infidelity and stays together, it’s not usually something they joke about over dinner with friends,” Rebecca added. “So if you’re in a place where your partner has cheated and you’re wondering if you’re crazy to want to stay, you’re not. Lots of couples are able to recover successfully.”
My fiancée got drunk one night and started talking about how much she enjoyed the sex we had last night. I was working last night….
Rebecca also says that cheaters don’t always get caught. “Sometimes things happen that a partner never knows about.“But that doesn’t mean that a cheater’s actions won’t have any impact on their relationship. “I do believe that cheating always has consequences,” the expert noted. “The consequences might be distance or disconnection in the relationship, lack of intimacy or even the ending of the relationship.”
Rebecca also says that cheaters don’t always get caught. “Sometimes things happen that a partner never knows about.”
But that doesn’t mean that a cheater’s actions won’t have any impact on their relationship. “I do believe that cheating always has consequences,” the expert noted. “The consequences might be distance or disconnection in the relationship, lack of intimacy or even the ending of the relationship.”
I was at work and a buddy was scrolling through match dot com while we chatted. Up pops a picture of my girlfriend. In my living room where she lived.I went home, logged into the computer and pulled up her profile. Shut off the screen saver and went up to my room. I heard her come in, start crying and leave again. The next day when I came home from work all her s**t was gone.
Rebecca also shared some advice for anyone who believes their partner may be cheating on them. “If you suspect your partner is cheating and you want to end the relationship anyway, seriously consider ending [it],” she told Bored Panda. “I trust that you’ll consider all the consequences of the breakup, but take care of yourself, prioritize your own wellbeing, and kindly walk away. If you know you don’t want to be in the relationship AND you suspect cheating, going down the road to try to find evidence of it will only cause you a lot of pain and wasted energy.”
He left his phone in the bathroom and she texted “I’m pregnant what are we gonna do?”
His mom told me.
“On the other hand, if you suspect cheating and you want to keep the relationship, talk to your partner,” Rebecca says. “Have some open conversations about what’s working and not working in the relationship.““You might be right about the cheating, or your brain might suspect cheating as the reason for some other problems in the relationship, which may or may not be true,” she noted. “Identify where there is disconnection, unhappiness, or distance and make a plan to close those gaps. Get the help of a trained couples therapist if this is something you think you can’t do on your own.”
“On the other hand, if you suspect cheating and you want to keep the relationship, talk to your partner,” Rebecca says. “Have some open conversations about what’s working and not working in the relationship.”
“You might be right about the cheating, or your brain might suspect cheating as the reason for some other problems in the relationship, which may or may not be true,” she noted. “Identify where there is disconnection, unhappiness, or distance and make a plan to close those gaps. Get the help of a trained couples therapist if this is something you think you can’t do on your own.”
I walked in on him with our landlord.It was also how he came out of the closet. Super fun.
Many years ago I was visiting my GF in her city, we were long distance. She had a roommate, we’ll call her Sandy, who was one of her best friends. One night, we had all gone out with some other people, drank, had a good time, and we were back at the apartment asleep. Sandy had still been out when my gf and I crashed.I wake up to my GF’s phone ringing. Quickly grab it to make it stop, screen says Sandy is calling. I didn’t hesitate at all, answered her phone, thought maybe Sandy was locked out or needed a ride who knows. On the other end of the phone was a man, looking for my GF. I’m like, who the fk are you, he, likewise wants to know who the fk I am. My girlfriend finally wakes up to me basically yelling at this dude on the phone.One huge messy fight later. “Sandy” on the phone was the guy she was always texting. And regularly f*****g, mind you. She saved him as her best friend’s name so she could freely text in front of me so I wouldn’t be suspicious. Pretty slick tactics.
“Sometimes we suspect cheating and we are totally right. And other times, because of our own past histories or insecurities, we suspect cheating and we’re wrong,” the expert added. “If you find that you’re always suspicious of a partner cheating even without any evidence, your brain is likely trying to protect you from experiencing the pain of cheating again.““Your brain has become vigilant, always looking for signs of cheating even when they aren’t there,” Rebecca explained. “If this sounds like you, there’s hope. Find an experienced trauma therapist (someone who uses somatic therapies, EMDR, or Brainspotting) and they can help you heal. We don’t want to see the pain of the past harm your current relationships too.“If you’d like to hear more wise words from Rebecca or the rest of her team, be sure to check outInland Empire Couples Counseling.
“Sometimes we suspect cheating and we are totally right. And other times, because of our own past histories or insecurities, we suspect cheating and we’re wrong,” the expert added. “If you find that you’re always suspicious of a partner cheating even without any evidence, your brain is likely trying to protect you from experiencing the pain of cheating again.”
“Your brain has become vigilant, always looking for signs of cheating even when they aren’t there,” Rebecca explained. “If this sounds like you, there’s hope. Find an experienced trauma therapist (someone who uses somatic therapies, EMDR, or Brainspotting) and they can help you heal. We don’t want to see the pain of the past harm your current relationships too.”
If you’d like to hear more wise words from Rebecca or the rest of her team, be sure to check outInland Empire Couples Counseling.
ex and i shared a bank account. one day the bank called me to approve an over limit amount… at an escort service in Nevada.
A colleague of mine was out doing shopping, when she ran into a family friend who happens to be a police officer. She asked how he was doing and he said he was good but that he was tired because they were out all night looking for a car that fled from a known drug and p********e spot. He mentioned that they never found the suspect but that during the chase the suspects car hit a curb and lost its front bumper so they were on the lookout for a white sedan without a front bumper. Later that evening her husband returned from an “out of town” business trip without his front bumper. He had a white sedan.
My boyfriend at the time wished me happy birthday randomly one day in July. My birthday is in April. He tried to play it off as a joke when I was confused, but I later found out that he was still seeing the woman that he claimed was his ex, and he had our birthdays and other info in his calendar to try to keep everything straight. He slipped up and wished me happy birthday on her birthday.
I’m a guy. My ex went out with his mates to the local gay bar. Met him for brunch the next day, and he was telling me how much fun he had and how drunk everyone got (nothing wrong with that, we were young and I also went out a lot). Anyway, he started showing me pictures from the previous night and I realized he was wearing the same clothes that he came to brunch with. Same t-shirt, same shorts, same shoes, same everything. I jokingly made a comment about it and he froze for 2 seconds before awkwardly laughing it off. That set off alarm bells and after some prodding, he admitted he went back home with another guy, stayed there overnight, and then came to meet me.He did say he closed his eyes and was thinking of me the entire time he was f*****g the other guy, as if that was of any comfort 😂
We went to the same college. He was emailing me an assignment to look over for him to make sure it looked professional. I noticed the email was in a woman’s name. He had forgotten to let her log off of his computer. That made me suspicious, so I waited until he was asleep, went on his phone and got solid proof, sent it to myself. Kicked his a*s out of bed and to the curb.
The woman he was cheating on me with looked at my LinkedIn profile. They’d worked together, so I asked him about it, and knew instantly from his reaction what was going on.
He tried sexting his brother’s ex-girlfriend. Claimed I was too sick to engage in those activities (to be fair at the time I had just gotten out of the hospital from septic shock, double kidney infection, and multiple other complications) and that I had “given him permission” to seek pleasure elsewhere. She screenshotted everything and sent it to me. He knew we were still friends at the time so I was shocked he attempted something like this with someone he knew I talked to frequently.She drove two hours down to our residence to confront him with me there. He was such a deer in headlights when she showed up and we were all patiently waiting for him to come inside to confront him. I gave him back his engagement ring then and there.
Through an iPad lol. Apple can sync messages between devices, but at the time in 2012ish, it was a novel thing so not everyone had two Apple devices nor allowed them to sync. My ex did. While on her iPad watching some dumb video, I saw a message pop up from a girl named “Leslie” (not her real name) asking what song my ex wanted to hear next time. It was kind of weird, but I assumed they met at some girls night out thing recently and became new friends, so whatever. Until she started replying from her phone in another room with a selfie she took of her half naked saying something like “here’s some inspiration.” Turns out “Leslie” was a dude. Not just some dude, but a skinhead who wore a kilt and played the bass in some cheesy metal tribute band.On a girls night out, one of her trashy friends took her to a dive bar where he was playing. They got wasted and hooked up and for a few months had a secret relationship going. So every time she had another “girls night out” where she would crash at “her friends house,” she was going out to bang him. So yeah, I got cheated on with a kilt wearer whose life aspirations included living in Santa Rosa, CA, breeding pit bulls, and working part-time as overnight security. They’re still together AFAIK living with his grandma. Through a mutual friend, she said the reason she cheated was because “he was in a bad spot and I needed to help him.” I guess having multiple felonies and being a racist is somehow irresistible lol.
Honestly, I had a series of dreams of her cheating on me. I started to snoop lightly and found texts, emails, pictures of it within a short period of time. I guess my unconscious picked it up?
The passenger seat of his truck was reclined all the way back and her sunglasses were still in the cup holder.
The dog was playing with a notebook, didn’t look like a diary or anything. I pick it up, first page had a list of names, I didn’t recognize some of them. Her ex was before my name, my name was before someone else.
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My 9 year old neighbor girl used to come over and play with our dog. She was very sweet and I felt bad for her as her mom was a barfly and she was often alone, so I didn’t mind. She told me once that when I leave for my 2nd job another girl comes over and leaves just before I get home. Then I found one of her long curly hairs in our bed.In high school, a guy friend of mine came into my work and asked when my boyfriend and I broke up. I was wearing his Senior key, and said we hadn’t broken up. He desperately tried to backpedal, but I made him talk. In another town, he had seen a girl wearing his letter jacket (and in a different town another girl had his class ring.).Three years ago I registered my husband’s email for our new QuickBooks. I was gathering documents and the tax lady was emailing me some information I needed so we could file taxes. When I checked his email, I found one from Tinder, thanking him for joining.
We lived together and one of the rooms worked as an office space with a shared gaming PC (each had our own laptop otherwise), one of the things we used to do was to leave open tabs with interesting news or articles for the other to read. I went to check something on the PC and turns out he forgot to close his Whatsapp online on one of the tabs, first conversation was to an old classmate of his, who he recently reconnected as friends … “I wish I had you in my arms right now” … he was in the bathroom … we just have been talking and he was saying I was the love of his life. And 5 minutes later he was texting another girl telling her how much he loves her. Previous to that I spent month asking if everything was ok and that something was off in our relationship, and was treated as crazy and a bad girlfriend for even thinking that he might have met someone else.
Needed to send my mom something for Mother’s Day. Was thinking out loud when my husband suggested a specific online gift basket company. That man, to my knowledge, had never ordered a gift basket in his life. I bought all the gifts for our family and our business. Went into Quickbooks and searched for the name of the company. Found a Valentine’s gift basket sent to a bartender at a place we sometimes stopped off to together after work.
A girl I hardly knew called me in the middle of the night and said she had just seen my long/term boyfriend’s car at the trailer house of a gal who was newly divorced
I found a physical photograph between his mattress and box spring of another woman in a compromised position.
At work. His company subcontracted off of my company. They were in construction, and we offered rig camp services. So the company would do tear down and set up for us. Anyways, he’s had a “close relationship " with his office assistant. One day I received a frantic call from him crying, saying his job was over. Then she called and said she’d was fixing it and not to worry about it..I had no idea what was up. Apparently, they were caught in a hotel room doing drugs and obviously having an affair,and later that morning, he was found outside the camp passed out wasted in the company truck. Fired! That afternoon I was brought into my managers office and My supportive boss broke it to me like this he said " would I like the good news or bad”..I said good.I got a gift card and was told my husband of a year was a cheating lying POS JUNKIE. Yay me!
Found an unknown address on his google maps when it connected to his car. Was his coworkers that he swore up and down he wasnt talking to after she had been messaging him 24/7 and moved in down the street after she broke up with her long time bf.She knew I existed, didnt care. Meeting up for brunches and late night meetings to “help him through his relationship problems” behind my back. Now shes on reddit giving advice on how to deal with cheaters telling them “get out while its easy!” after her last boyfriend did the same to her lol. If only she had made it easy for me!
Not me but my parents. Dad came home, went to the bathroom, went straight to bed, said he had dinner at the pub. I (16-ish at the time) went to the bathroom after him and found a condom floating in the toilet water. I instantly knew it had to belong to my dad with someone else, because it wasn’t there when I was in the bathroom earlier, and my parents had no reason to need one (both in their 50s and married for decades). I went to the kitchen and got my Mom to follow me to the toilet to show it to her. Dad told me it must have been stuck on his seat at the pub and stuck to his pants all the way home up until he went to the toilet.They stayed together for about six more months.
I got a bunch of creepy PMs on discord and on Reddit. Stuff like “I have a secret that would change your entire world..” and “if only you knew what went on behind your back”. When i confronted the person and asked they were talking about they just went like “i cant tell you” or like “how badly do you want to know?".Turns out my (now ex) bf was f*****g some chick he met online who enjoyed stalking. (If you found my new account, Hello to you)
I guy I was dating, told me that he was going up to his old college to visit some friends, and that his ex was gonna be there. He told me over and over that they were just friends and nothing would happen. That should’ve been the first red flag waving in my face, but I trusted him. Then on the way home, he called me randomly, and said that him and his ex talked, and realized they were soulmates, that would eventually end up together, but he wanted to try things out with me.. like what the f**k? No I’m not your back up plan. I also have a feeling they f****d, or kissed, or something and he decided not to tell me.
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