30 percentof U.S. adults are single. This number jumps to 51 percent if we look only at gay, lesbian, or bisexual people, and to a whopping 63 percent among 18- to 29-year-old men.Interested in how to recognize them, Reddit userRiff_lick601asked everyone on the platform to share what they believe to be the telltale signs of asolo lifestyle, and in just a few days, they have received over 4,500 replies.To cut through the noise, we’ve sorted the most popular and interesting ones. Continue scrolling to check them out and don’t miss the chat we had with psychologistDr. Bella DePaulo— you’ll find it spread in between the entries.This post may includeaffiliate links.
30 percentof U.S. adults are single. This number jumps to 51 percent if we look only at gay, lesbian, or bisexual people, and to a whopping 63 percent among 18- to 29-year-old men.
Interested in how to recognize them, Reddit userRiff_lick601asked everyone on the platform to share what they believe to be the telltale signs of asolo lifestyle, and in just a few days, they have received over 4,500 replies.
To cut through the noise, we’ve sorted the most popular and interesting ones. Continue scrolling to check them out and don’t miss the chat we had with psychologistDr. Bella DePaulo— you’ll find it spread in between the entries.
This post may includeaffiliate links.
I used to work in the film industry, meaning I got fed two very good meals a day + snacks. So when I went to the supermarket it was basically some cereal for the weekend, toothpaste, maybe some chocolate and a lot of beer.I’d get to the checkout (this is in London) and a large Jamaican lady would scan my items and say…..“tsk ohhh, you live on your own don’t you?“I’d shyly nod “yes”.“You don’t have a girlfriend??? You want a girlfriend?“Then she’d shout to the till 2 away “Sylvia! SYLVIA! you want a skinny white boyfriend?”.
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Incels, mostly. They never shut up about it.I don’t play golf, but I don’t spend my life complaining about not playing golf, or how I’d be a really good golfer if golf only gave me a chance, or how golf is such a b***h and doesn’t want me because golf doesn’t know what’s good for it even though I’ve never bothered to make the slightest effort to learn how to play golf.
Psychologist and author ofSingle at Heart: The Power, Freedom, and Heart-Filling Joy of Single Life, Dr. Bella DePaulo is considered to be the leading expert on single life, and she says that for a long time, singles have been viewed mostly negatively.“Over the past decade or so, that’s been changing, probably in part because of the growing number of single people,” DePaulo tellsBored Panda. “When nearly half of all Americans 18 and older are not married, it is hard to make the case that there’s something wrong with that many people.“DePaulo says single people are also starting to push back on the stereotyping and stigmatizing that they endure, which she calls singlism. However, that “generates backlash, and then you start to see the demeaning of single people and people who don’t have children (e.g., ‘childless cat ladies’) and the glorifying of married people.”
Psychologist and author ofSingle at Heart: The Power, Freedom, and Heart-Filling Joy of Single Life, Dr. Bella DePaulo is considered to be the leading expert on single life, and she says that for a long time, singles have been viewed mostly negatively.
“Over the past decade or so, that’s been changing, probably in part because of the growing number of single people,” DePaulo tellsBored Panda. “When nearly half of all Americans 18 and older are not married, it is hard to make the case that there’s something wrong with that many people.”
DePaulo says single people are also starting to push back on the stereotyping and stigmatizing that they endure, which she calls singlism. However, that “generates backlash, and then you start to see the demeaning of single people and people who don’t have children (e.g., ‘childless cat ladies’) and the glorifying of married people.”
When I need my laundry chair to game, I move everything to the laundry bed. Then bedtime comes and my laundry chair is reborn.
Soup for one, salad for one, wine for three.
As you can see from the things shared in the online discussion (and probably your own friends), for some people, being single is much more difficult than for others.“Their experiences growing up are part of the answer,” DePaulo says. “If you are part of a family or culture that reveres marriage and looks down on single people, it is going to be harder. If you have never had role models in your life who stayed single and were happy and flourishing as single people, it will be harder. If you are a people-pleaser, or if you find it daunting to try to go against social norms, living single will be harder for you.“But “if you’ve never stayed single for long, you may have never had the chance to discover that single life is something that suits you.”
As you can see from the things shared in the online discussion (and probably your own friends), for some people, being single is much more difficult than for others.
“Their experiences growing up are part of the answer,” DePaulo says. “If you are part of a family or culture that reveres marriage and looks down on single people, it is going to be harder. If you have never had role models in your life who stayed single and were happy and flourishing as single people, it will be harder. If you are a people-pleaser, or if you find it daunting to try to go against social norms, living single will be harder for you.”
But “if you’ve never stayed single for long, you may have never had the chance to discover that single life is something that suits you.”
I’m going to be positive and say “Doing whatever you want all the time”.
When your trash stinks. Not because you threw something stinky in there but because as a single person you don’t produce enough trash to fill and take out a bag of trash before it all rots and stinks…
As the title ofher latest booksuggests, DePaulo studies people who are “single at heart.“The psychologist says they are the ones who are happy and flourishing because of their status, not in spite of it. “They love their independence. They also value solitude — spending time on their own refreshes and fulfills them, it doesn’t scare them.““While people in conventional romantic relationships have ‘the one,’ people who are single at heart often have ‘the ones’ – a whole circle of friends and relatives, and other people who are important to them.“The key thing, according to DePaulo, is that single at heart find it easy to be single. “Coupled life is what would be hard for them. It would feel more constraining and inauthentic.”
As the title ofher latest booksuggests, DePaulo studies people who are “single at heart.”
The psychologist says they are the ones who are happy and flourishing because of their status, not in spite of it. “They love their independence. They also value solitude — spending time on their own refreshes and fulfills them, it doesn’t scare them.”
“While people in conventional romantic relationships have ‘the one,’ people who are single at heart often have ‘the ones’ – a whole circle of friends and relatives, and other people who are important to them.”
The key thing, according to DePaulo, is that single at heart find it easy to be single. “Coupled life is what would be hard for them. It would feel more constraining and inauthentic.”
The other side of my bed is used for keeping my water bottle, it’s where my phone sleeps, my emergency midnight bag of crisps, I take my bra off just before bed and stuff it there.There’s no room for anyone else to sleep on that side.
Guys that are really into Andrew Tate.
If you also want to make the most out of being single, you have to approach it with the right mindset. DePaulo suggests viewing it as something that doesn’t take away from your life but rather adds to it.
It’s about being yourself fully and not waiting for a better part to fill you up.
(Straight) guys with long dirty fingernails. No woman would let those UTI daggers go anywhere near her fun bits.
Take the one that mentions single people’s supposed availability for last-minute plans, implying that they have more time than coupled people do. “Research shows that when aging parents need help, their grown single children are more likely to be providing it than their kids who are coupled. They are not always available for last-minute plans because they are doing the hard work of caring for other people.”
As with every online discussion, it’s great for making us think about sensitive topics but don’t take everything as fact.
Believing in an Alpha/Beta/Sigma pecking order.
Being able to wake up on a saturday morning, think to yourself “f**k it” and stay in bed for another half hour before you decide wether you’ll be reading, gaming or going somewhere today.
I have two seats in my tiny apartment. One faces the tv. The other is for the computer. They don’t face each other.Oh, also, I have one pillow on my bed.
Not finishing your groceries before they go bad because they don’t get eaten fast enough.
Having 8 cats.
Actively looking around at parties.MhrisCac:That might be the worst one, having nobody to anchor to temporarily at a party is the worst feeling. Feeling like you’re a random free floater desperately searching for somebody to connect with blows.
I got teased for this at work recently, but “ordering a sh*t ton of takeout for Friday lunch so you don’t have to cook over the weekend.”.
When the price of rent makes you physically sick to your stomach because all the places are priced for two.
Not being invited to stuff because everyone else is going with their SOs.Real_Sir_3655:Or being invited anyway but hanging out with kids or grandmas instead.
I bought one of those “DiGiorno Pizza - for one” personal pizzas at Walmart and the cashier said “Fun night?” as she rung it up.
The lawn chairs in my living room.
Always available for last-minute plans: No need to check in with anyone, so you’re always down for spontaneous hangouts.
Me eating lasagna straight from the pan.
Having “The Deal” with your opposite sex bestie that you’ll marry each other when you turn 30 if neither of you are already married.
Posting those motivational comics or drawings to Facebook that more or less say something like “the right one will come along eventually, just be patient and stay true to yourself. You deserve to be loved” and what not.Never seen someone in a relationship, or a healthy one I guess, post anything like that.
Asking the veggie vendor at the market whether I can split that bunch of veggies in half because I can’t finish it all.
Receiving the “Microwave Cooking for One” cookbook as a Christmas present.
Body pillows.
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Having your bed in the corner of your bedroom instead of in the middle of a wall for access to both sides.
My pinball machine in the living room.
Having enough money and time to enjoy your hobbies.
People who constantly posts pictures of celebrities like its their f****n spouse lmao.
Buying the small pack of toilet paper.
Women who tell their friends to break up with someone the moment they have a small fight.
Person in a party of three boarding a roller coaster.
If you’re a guy, toilet seat permanently up.
Having repeated, very generalised and extremely bitter opinions and complaints of the gender you wish you were dating, no matter how much you try to disguise your wah-wahs as “just stating facts!”.
Wearing sweatpants and eating cereal straight from the box on a Saturday night. Zero shame, just vibes.
A long list of desirable and undesirable traits of a partner.
Being a Reddit mod.
Showing up in the gym at the same time 6+ days a week.
League of Legends.
The frozen food aisle. If you’re going to put an ad up for the s*icide hotline, it’s probably the place to do it.
People spontaneously telling about their day, random stuff.People in a relationship know they haveca partner they can vent at when they got home.
Ordering 27 pounds of Twizzlers from Amazon.
The “where’s my hug” people and white knights.
Always saying yes to other people’s invitations/plans.
Desperation to see other people.
Adults that are really into my little pony.
Anime t-shirt, cargo pants and a neckbeard.
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