Somesecretsare bigger than others. No matter how open and honest we might think we are, there are still some things that we prefer to keep to ourselves. After all, people are social beings, and our reputations, as well as being accepted, are vital. Naturally, wanting tofit in, we keep some information about ourselves to ourselves.
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I think babies are ugly as hell.
I am a woman who is willingly sterilized.
I don’t take care of my hygiene as much as I should. Especially when it comes to showering and brushing my teeth. It’s not that I don’t care, but depression makes it hard as hell sometimes.
Judging othersis never going to go away. It’s something that human beings do on both conscious and automatic levels. Analyzing the behavior of the people around us is a way to recognize how we ourselves (do not) fit into our social groups. Used sparingly to make us look at our values and actions more objectively, social judgments can push us to make more positive decisions that end up being good for us and our social group.However, there’s a darker side to making these social judgments. Some folks judge other people to feel better about themselves, hide their own flaws, or fit into society at the cost of someone else’s reputation. This sort of exclusionary behavior might make youfeel saferyourself, but it can also end up destroying relationships and ostracizing individuals.
Judging othersis never going to go away. It’s something that human beings do on both conscious and automatic levels. Analyzing the behavior of the people around us is a way to recognize how we ourselves (do not) fit into our social groups. Used sparingly to make us look at our values and actions more objectively, social judgments can push us to make more positive decisions that end up being good for us and our social group.
However, there’s a darker side to making these social judgments. Some folks judge other people to feel better about themselves, hide their own flaws, or fit into society at the cost of someone else’s reputation. This sort of exclusionary behavior might make youfeel saferyourself, but it can also end up destroying relationships and ostracizing individuals.
I’m a 38 year old man who sleeps with stuffed animals.
I don’t like talking. It’s not that I’m afraid to talk, I just prefer to stay quiet most of the time. Unfortunately, we live in a world that requires you to talk a lot if you want to make connections.
I’m very very happy to get home after work and stay in bed for the rest of the day, most days of the week.
Even though we have free will, it would be naive to think that we have control over everything that happens to us. Sure, taking responsibility for our actions can empower us. That being said, there are so many things outside our control that we can’t really do anything about. It’s important to be honest with ourselves about what we can realistically affect with our actions.
I ignore texts and calls. It starts with “I’ll respond later” and then after awhile I feel like it’s been too long to reply so I don’t. It’s not malicious but I assume it feels that way to others.
I have Tourette’s, including coprolalia/swearing tics. I’m very lucky though, because I seem to fit in pretty well in restaurant kitchens, and I love that line of work 😄.
I have no friends and am comfortable being alone. Prepared to die that way too :D.
Things like attitudes and opinions are within our power to change, however, we might feel uncomfortable doing so just to fit in with the rest of our social group. It would feel like we’re betraying our deepest values if we did so. At the same time, having completely different beliefs than the majority of your social circle can make life very difficult. This might be why some folks choose to hide their true feelings—they don’t want to face rejection or take part in countless arguments.What kind of behavior is deemed socially (un)acceptable is going to depend entirely on your culture and social circle. Something celebrated in your hometown might be seen as bizarre in a big city or even downright ‘shameful’ in another country.
Things like attitudes and opinions are within our power to change, however, we might feel uncomfortable doing so just to fit in with the rest of our social group. It would feel like we’re betraying our deepest values if we did so. At the same time, having completely different beliefs than the majority of your social circle can make life very difficult. This might be why some folks choose to hide their true feelings—they don’t want to face rejection or take part in countless arguments.
What kind of behavior is deemed socially (un)acceptable is going to depend entirely on your culture and social circle. Something celebrated in your hometown might be seen as bizarre in a big city or even downright ‘shameful’ in another country.
I have no idea how to manage friendships.I have friends and I’m friendly….But sometimes I forget to text back and if they don’t call or re text I could go months with no contact.Unless I find something funny to share then I’m sending it to everyone.
I like candy corn.
Social norms change over time, too. Behaviors that seem odd to us now might have been perfectly fine decades or even centuries ago. On the flip side, what was once judged in the past might be mundanely accepted in this day and age. Social norms aren’t static. While we can guess what might be deemed acceptable in the future, we can never be certain—cultures can change in very unpredictable ways.
That I come off as “cold” when I’m not maskingBut man….sometimes I really am tired of masking. My reactions feel so fake to me and I can’t stand it. But everyone else seems to love it so…whatever ig.
I would deliberately pretend that i don’t hear people calling me or asking me stuff in social situations. Also in a crowd when people are chitchatting in a circle, i zone out if im not interested.
Being borderline sociopathic for a professionI’ve become “jaded” to seeing death, the mentally perturbed, physically traumatic injuries that you would only see in movies, even the downright depressing scenes, the list goes on.The type of things people should only have to witness behind their screens or even only once in there life; I’ve adjusted to seeing in person on a weekly basis. It’s to the point I can’t call myself normal as I end up laughing to the most f****d up jokes.Call it dark humor or a “coping mechanism” but if the event just happened, normal people would be mortified.Its a bittersweet profession as a paramedic with high call volumes. I get a peek into everyones emergencies when they’re at their lowest and often times these calls rub off on us (even the bs calls), but at the end of the day when st hits the fan, It’s their emergency and not ours.Better yet we have a hand in helping them physically and mentally. I have to tell people their loved ones are gone, but I get to convey it in the best way to let them heal the fastest. I have people who try to commit s*e, but I get to save them when they or a loved one makes the call. I have people living the sttiest day of their life, but knowing it would’ve been their last if I hadn’t came, makes it worthwhile.
I’ll leave. I’ll just go home and love it.
My parents are cousins. Nobody (outside the family) knows.No adverse effect on the kids (although I AM on Reddit a lot…).
I was one of the last kids to have ever been a patient in an insane asylum here in the US. The one I was in closed down in 1993.
I’m fat.
Love me a good nose-pickin!
I’m autistic, and nine times out of ten i forgot that when people ask me for my opinion or input on something that they actually want the opinion that caters to theirs.
I have taken human lives. Sure, during military service, but just the same.
I stare blankly a lot during conversations. Like as if I’m zoned out, but I’m paying full attention. Especially if it’s a particularly long conversation, I just can’t be bothered to keep up with constant eye contact.
I’m a double dipper.
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I was in a mental health hospital and I still have regular emotional breakdowns.
I always have a b***h face but the second someone smiles at me, my whole minute was made.
I am a people pleaser and have learned how to chameleon into almost any social situation. I don’t know who I am so my dating life is: becoming acceptable and try to be the perfect person to my partner so they fall in love with me, then I break and say this isn’t working for me, leaving them in ruins. I hate myself for it but I don’t know how to connect otherwise.
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I don’t like my Mum.
I love passively snooping if people have their s**t exposed. I also hide my phone and desktop activities from everyone instinctively.
I don’t like to be around dogs at all. I worked in PetSmart for 7 years and being around literally 100+ dogs every shift got me to where I can’t stand the smell and the noise. I don’t hate dogs, they can’t help but be what they are, it’s just that every normal, natural behavior in dogs really just bugs the c**p out of me.I still help people with dog behavior issues to this day, I just don’t want to have a dog or live with one.
Anything my OCD comes up with.
I own a reasonably large amount of comic book themed statues. And like, the big ones, that are two feet tall.
I don’t respect and not even like my parents, in a good day I tolerate them. I am doing what I can to move asap after college and pretend they don’t exist.
i am incredibly clingy & needy :).
I’m a guy and I’m absolutely s**t at making money. I never have enough of it and everyone in life thinks lesser of me because of it.
That I’ve hung out with dg dealers and super, super sketchy people and actually kind of liked those people. Also that I drank a st ton of alcohol starting when I was 12.
When I want to lose weight, I just starve myself and drink water and eat vitamin gummies. Sometimes I lose like 50lbs in 3 months with no exercise. I do not exercise, and my calorie intake is like below 600. Everyone constantly says that’s not good for you. I feel fine, and if I feel really bad I just have a cheat day and I eat two medium pizzas from Pizza Hut. And then I just continue to do it. Maybe I’m just built different, maybe it’s Maybelline.
That I’m a d**g addict.
I kink-shame.
When i feel bad i leave and don’t come back until i’m okay.
I make too much eye contact. I’ve been practicing looking away.
That I was in a gang for many years.
I hate peanut butter.
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