“You want to know the one truth I’ve learned in all my years? Life’s too hard to face sober.”– Octieve San, The Elder Scrolls V: Skyrim.There, I helped![smug face]In all seriousness, getting advice is always helpful. Yes, it should be taken with a grain of salt, and not all advice is necessarily great or even decent. But even if it is crummy advice, it might just help put things into perspective, or give you a reason to laugh about it. So,win-win.And maybe these tips from Reddit might be of use to you as older generations (everyone over 40) share the pearls of wisdom they’ve acquired throughout the years with the youngerpeeps of the internets.More Info:RedditThis post may includeaffiliate links.
“You want to know the one truth I’ve learned in all my years? Life’s too hard to face sober.”– Octieve San, The Elder Scrolls V: Skyrim.
There, I helped![smug face]
In all seriousness, getting advice is always helpful. Yes, it should be taken with a grain of salt, and not all advice is necessarily great or even decent. But even if it is crummy advice, it might just help put things into perspective, or give you a reason to laugh about it. So,win-win.
And maybe these tips from Reddit might be of use to you as older generations (everyone over 40) share the pearls of wisdom they’ve acquired throughout the years with the youngerpeeps of the internets.
More Info:Reddit
This post may includeaffiliate links.
I’m not quite 40, but my advice is: get the f**k off TikTok
40 isn’t old
You’re not special, no one cares what you do and the sooner you can accept it, the sooner you can be at peace with yourself.
Stretch everyday or at least more then never. Stay limber and flexible because once it is gone, it’s almost impossible to get it back.
Bored Pandagot a chance to speak to one of the submittersin the original post, and that isu/unabtaniuam.
In their submission, unabtaniuam took a very zen approach to advice, pointing out a number of universal, yet spot-on truths: life is short, be grateful, and learn to live in the present for the past is a mere memory now and the future is only up to our imagination at this point.
You aren’t going to get rich as an influencer or become a professional gamer. Get educated and get a job.
take care of your knees and back.
It’s okay and healthy to sit in silence. Put down your phone, leave your earphones in your pocket, and just be. It’s important to not constantly be stimulated.
Don’t cheap out on a mattress, pillows or shoes.Cut back on the sugar.Do NOT bring work home with you.
Cut s****y people out fast with a sharp knife. There are so many f*****g people on this planet, why give second chances? Also, family are friends you didn’t get to decide to bring into your life, but should be held to the same expectations as non family members. So many toxic family members saying “but were family…”
In our interview with u/unabtaniuam, they elaborated that their advice comes from a difficult time, one that involved overcoming an addiction on their own.“Thisis what helped me pull out of the lows in my life. I’ve always been pretty positive and had a deep understanding that there is more to life than the daily trivialities. Who helped?Eckhart Tolle,Alan WattsandRam Dass. Spiritual gurus and yogis.”
In our interview with u/unabtaniuam, they elaborated that their advice comes from a difficult time, one that involved overcoming an addiction on their own.
“Thisis what helped me pull out of the lows in my life. I’ve always been pretty positive and had a deep understanding that there is more to life than the daily trivialities. Who helped?Eckhart Tolle,Alan WattsandRam Dass. Spiritual gurus and yogis.”
Avoid “toxic positivity” people. Actually, try to avoid all toxic people, “toxic positivity” is just a bit harder to recognise. It is ok to be not in a mood sometimes.
Take photos around where you live; streets, buildings, forests, etc. Because everything will look different in 20 years.
Don’t waste time being the person other people think you should be, and instead be the person you want to be
Love life it is short. Be grateful for everything. The biggest burden you’ll carry are your own thoughts. Learn to live in the present, the past is just a memory and the future is just your imagination. You don’t have to accept the negative self dialogue, be the watcher of those thoughts and learn to let them go. You are braver than you believe, smarter than you think, stronger than you seem and loved more than you know.
Save your money
u/unabtaniuam focuses on a number of themes in their original thought: life and death, the burdens of time, thoughts, and negativity, just to name a few. But, according to them, the key is here is to tacklethe negativeandthe critical.“Thecriticaljudge in your head does not tell the truth and it does not have your best interest at heart. Recognize it and don’t accept it.“This then ties in well with the idea of observing it and learning from it, all the while negating its influence over the mind.
u/unabtaniuam focuses on a number of themes in their original thought: life and death, the burdens of time, thoughts, and negativity, just to name a few. But, according to them, the key is here is to tacklethe negativeandthe critical.
“Thecriticaljudge in your head does not tell the truth and it does not have your best interest at heart. Recognize it and don’t accept it.”
This then ties in well with the idea of observing it and learning from it, all the while negating its influence over the mind.
Your dreams are not static. It’s ok to decide the dream you had at 15 is no longer for you
Don’t “wait to get in shape”Start working out however is enjoyable to you so you avoid health risks later. Don’t wait to have to lose 30 lbs
Take care of your teeth. It’s nice to have high standards, but it’s even better to have a friend with you and not be alone.
I’m 56. You don’t have as much time as you think you do. Don’t waste it, don’t waste a single f****** day. Do something everyday even if it’s just something for yourself. Drink plenty of water and use sunscreen. Donating blood doesn’t hurt that bad. Doing something you like for a living is more rewarding than doing something that pays even exceptionally well. I’ve done both and the former is preferable in my opinion. I’m rambling too much coffee😳😳
Fail more.Fail all the time.Set yourself up for failure.Because what you will learn is that failure is not some horrible catastrophe, it’s actually a part of a process of getting better at something or getting what you want. And going ahead into failure is often how you find yourself unexpectedly succeeding faster than you expected.And the more you fail, the more you immunize yourself against the fear of it so you can get more of it. Failure is something you actually need in your life to really get the things you want.
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Lastly, we asked if giving advice, whether to young folk, or anyone, really, is truly challenging. And u/unabtaniuam pointed out a concept that’s very true with a lot of folks:“I have found it is easy for me to give good advice from the heart. But at the same time hard for me to follow it for myself.“There isthis ideathat it can be difficult to follow your own advice because you are much closer to your own problems. And so, not only are you more aware of the context and nuances of it all, but your emotions are often also more powerful in clouding your judgment. But advice for others comes easier and more naturally as we are more distant from these factors, and thus can approach it with a clearer mind.
Lastly, we asked if giving advice, whether to young folk, or anyone, really, is truly challenging. And u/unabtaniuam pointed out a concept that’s very true with a lot of folks:
“I have found it is easy for me to give good advice from the heart. But at the same time hard for me to follow it for myself.”
There isthis ideathat it can be difficult to follow your own advice because you are much closer to your own problems. And so, not only are you more aware of the context and nuances of it all, but your emotions are often also more powerful in clouding your judgment. But advice for others comes easier and more naturally as we are more distant from these factors, and thus can approach it with a clearer mind.
- Upvotes and thumbsup from social media doesn’t matter. Your job title on LinkedIn doesn’t matter. Like nobody cares. Your children won’t care, your loved ones won’t care, your gravestone won’t say anything about it.2. Don’t think you are the be all and end all when it comes to trends and social knowledge. 20 years from now your children will look back upon you as savages. This happens every generation. Think about context before you judge others.3. One person already said it, but don’t think you are so special. The trends of parents over the past 20-30 years (saying you are perfection) isn’t helping you. Work hard, live a good life – be kind to others, admit your mistakes. (Aside: I have two kids and worked really hard to make them feel loved while simultaneously making sure they take responsibility for their actions)
You know that dream that seems nuts to pursue?Do it now.When you’re old, with a house and a mortgage and a dog, s**t like “I want to make a movie” get much more complicated
Dull answers, but genuine ones:- put more into your pension than you are now- avoid debt where you can- don’t hold grudges- look after your health- learn to enjoy the now- be nice to your parents. They might be d***s, but you’ll probably still miss them
People at work are not your friend! Even if they’re nice to you.
Enjoy your hairline/boobs, they aren’t going to get better and you will fondly look back on where they were situated when you were younger and hotter.
Keep at a healthy weight/fitness level, and do more now than sitting around waiting for later.
Stop. You won’t ever be the perfect image of yourself in your head
Once you’re out of school, don’t keep the friends who bring you down, You really don’t need that and the benefits no longer outweigh the drawbacks.You know what I mean, the friends who only call when they need something, the ones who make you feel bad when you fail and worse when you succeed. The friends who encourage you to do things you actually don’t want to do and discourage you from growing as a person.Focus your time and effort on your high-quality friends. It’s not about quantity anymore.
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save money. work for a higher pay. value yourself. it’s nice to live for today, but tomorrow is important too. absolutely do not fall into the trap of “my retirement plan is death” lest you be broke as a joke in old age. live within your means. delayed gratification is good. eat right. sleep right. exercise. never stop learning and using your brain. avoid hard vices. moderation is key. cherish the true friends you have. they’re rare.
Learn to let things go. Forgive yourself. If all that fails, drink beer and tequila. 🤣
Travel!! If in the US, get to Europe. It’s an amazing experience!
Roth IRA. Contribute until it hurts. By the time you make enough money that maxing it is easy, you won’t be able to any more.
Have as much fun as possible. Try and enjoy the now and not get lost in the hope of the future. Figure out who you really are and learn to live with that person. Hold on to your friends for dear life. You make your close friends up to 30 and then spend the rest of your life doing things with them. Yes you can make friends later in life but it isn’t the same.
Young people, you already know what is there right thing to do. Get on with it. You don’t need some older person to tell you what to do.
Show up on time for work. Just because the job is easy or the work environment is laid back, it doesn’t mean there aren’t people tracking your attendance.We’ve lost 2 people on our team in the last month who were pretty good, but they just couldn’t show up on time. That badge you swipe every morning when you come in? Management tracks that s**t.Along the same lines, it is important to be the “adult” in the room. If you were working at my office, and you wanted to get off of the night shift and come to days? I’d tell you “show up on time, and act like a grown up.“That’s how I got promoted. Management went down the list and asked “who shows up, does their job, and doesn’t cause drama?” That’s all there was to it.
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