The author of the post is 47 Y.O. and he lives in his house with his adult yet jobless daughter
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The author’s daughter has a boyfriend, Gary, who has no job either, and he actually shares a roof with the author too
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Recently the author’s daughter left for several days and the dad couldn’t get in touch neither with her nor with Gary
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However, when the couple returned home, the author yelled at them both, berating them for clearly manipulating him
So, the Original Poster (OP) says that he is 47 years old, he and his wife have been divorced for a long time, and in recent years he has been living with his daughter, who is now 20 years old. The girl lost her job over COVID, and since then has been trying to find a new one – well, or pretending to be trying. Now let’s explain why we think so.
According to the author of the post, his daughter moved in to live with him about five years ago – largely because she could not get along with her mother’s new husband. Since then, she has lived in her dad’s house, and the OP didn’t really bother her with doing chores or paying for food or accommodation. As a result, as the father himself admits, the girl grew up ‘a bit lazy’ and, for instance, would not get out of bed for hours.
The one person she could definitely stand up for was Gary, her boyfriend. Lately, Gary actually lived under the same roof with the OP, but all he did, as the author noted, was play his Xbox and eat the homeowner’s food. However, the man says that his daughter loves Gary, and that was enough for him to put up with the guy’s very existence in his house.
And then, one day, when the author came home from work, he did not find either his daughter or Gary. One day passed, the second, the third… the dad was very worried, he called the couple, and his ex, and the boyfriend’s parents – but the youngsters just did not answer his calls, and the older ones did not know what was going on.
And so, returning home from work once again, the OP found his daughter, Gary, and a newborn grandkid at home, whom the parents had brought in his absence. To a reasonable question why she didn’t tell him earlier, the daughter replied that she was afraid that dad would kick her and her boyfriend out of the house, force them to look for a job and their own place to live, and now she had practically put him with a fait accompli.
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“To be honest, yes, the behavior of the girl and her boyfriend towards the father was actually manipulative, because she really made him face the established fact,” says Irina Matveeva, apsychologist and certified NLP specialist, with whomBored Pandagot in touch for a comment on this case. “Of course, I’m a little surprised that the father couldn’t understand that his daughter was pregnant, but people can be so inattentive, that’s a fact. But now this man has practically no choice – because otherwise he won’t look good in others’ eyes. And he, of course, understands this as well.”
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