Any family goes through its rough patches, but blended familyrelationshipscome with even more challenges. Trying to keep the peace can be a full-time job, especially when step kids and stepparents don’t always see eye to eye.
One teen got sick of his mom always putting his troubled stepsister first, so he moved out. Now his mom is begging him to come back home and calling him stubborn for refusing to. Frustrated, he turned to netizens to ask if staying away is a jerk move.
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Blended family life can come with unique challenges, as this teen is finding out the hard way
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Three years after his dad passed away, his widowed mom met a new man who unfortunately came with a troubled 9-year-old daughter
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The daughter would act out in crazy ways, eventually turning to narcotics and alcohol when she was just thirteen
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After yet another disturbing incident, the teen called CPS and had himself legally removed from the family’s house
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Now his mom is begging him to move back home and calling him stubborn, so he’s turned to netizens to ask if staying away makes him a jerk
When James and Emma moved in, things only got worse. Some days Emma would haveviolentoutbursts and threaten self-harm, even trying to break a door down or smash up a room. OP adds that Emma started taking narcotics and drinking when she was 13, which did nothing to help.
Well, when Emma was 15, she wrecked her dad’s car and caused other damage. This led to thepolicecoming around and having CPS remove her and place her in a mental institution. After that, she went to live with a therapy foster family for a few months, but still came to visit, which was something OP hated.
Six months ago, there was another incident, so OP had himself legally removed from the house, on the condition that he’d have a 30-minute call with his mom once a week. According to OP, his mom uses these calls to try and manipulate him into moving back home. Now that he’s flatly refused, she’s calling him stubborn, prompting him to ask netizens if him staying away is, infact, a jerk move.
According to Jack, although narcissistic parents tend to be control freaks, they can also be neglectful and lazy, as they are ultimately more focused on their own needs than those of their children.
OP’s situation seems to be a classic case of the “Forgotten Child”, which happens when parents prioritize one sibling over another. In her article forLearning Mind, Sherrie Hurd writes that the role of the “Forgotten Child” or “Lost Child” in a dysfunctional family is quite different from other abusive roles in that it isn’t loud or doesn’t hog the spotlight.
In adulthood, individuals who were “Lost Children” might grapple with challenges such as establishing intimate relationships, asserting themselves, and recognizing their own needs. They may also exhibit a strong sense of independence, sometimes to the point of avoiding reliance on others, stemming from their early experiences of neglect.
It seems that OP is undergoing the transformation from “Lost Child” to finally finding himself and respecting his own needs. Unless some firm boundaries are put in place, his mom can probably forget about him coming home for quite some time.
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