Parentsshould be the ones making smart decisions and correcting us when we are wrong, right? However, sometimes it can actually be quite the opposite and parents should be the ones who are told that their ideas and plans are dumb. But here comes another ‘issue’ – how well can they take it?
Because, for example, thisteen’sdad didn’t take it well – after telling her that he wants to have more kids so his daughter can parent them, she informed him that she will not do that. Well, this led to quite an argument and name calling.
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In most cases, parents are the ones who are mature and make mature decisions, not the kids
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Teen shares that she’s the only child and her dad has been wanting to have more kids for a while now so his family name doesn’t die out
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She added that for about 10 years, her dad has been trying to find a young girlfriend who would be perfect to marry and have children with
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She also noted that her dad’s additional reasoning for wanting more kids is that she can parent them so he doesn’t need to
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She told him that it’s ridiculous and he shouldn’t have more kids in this case, but she was just called a jerk
However, OP also noted that beside dad’s wish to have ason, there is another reason for him wanting more kids – so she can parent them. Basically, she could do everything and he wouldn’t need to worry about it. OP told him that if that’s his reason, then he shouldn’t have any more kids, which was met with name calling.
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Bored Pandagot in touch withDr. Jane Greer, who is a marriage and family therapist, psychotherapist, author, and radio host of the Doctor On Call Show athealthylife.netfeaturing Shrink Wrap, Pop Psych, and Let’s Talk Sex: conversations about love, work and life. Her Shrink Wrap brand focuses on the trials and triumphs of relationships, with a spotlight on what we can learn from the celebrities.
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When a parent expects kids to take on parental responsibilities for their siblings, Dr. Jane Greer shares that the impact can be negative and affect a teenager in a variety of ways. “Rather than generating the desire to bond with siblings, it can instead foster hostility and resentment,” she added. “This in turn can make a teen reluctant to spend time freely or share and participate in activities with their siblings.”
Also, she pointed out that when a child is tasked with caregiving responsibilities at a young age, it can generate what is known as the parentified child – when a child has the burdensome weight of responsibility to take care of a parent unfairly placed upon them.
“This is an unfair parental role to be cast into and this overload of responsibility can inhibit their freedom to connect with friends and engage in activities that contribute to their own self-esteem and well-being,” Dr. Jane Greer emphasized. “During their adolescent years, teenagers need to move beyond their immediate family to participate in activities and establish friendships and relationships with peers.”
Finally, in addition to the challenges mentioned earlier, the father’s short-term relationships can create a lot of mistrust and fear of being involved in intimate relationships as this teen gets older.
“Seeing and experiencing the instability of her dad’s relationships can make her afraid to trust that anyone she dates will actually stay involved with her for any length of time and instead expect them to leave without it becoming a secure relationship,” Dr. Jane Greer pointed out. “It can also contribute to feelings ofanxietyfor fear that whoever she gets involved with is going to change their minds, reject and leave her so she may avoid getting seriously involved with anyone.”
She added that this insecurity can lead to low feelings of self-esteem and self-worth. “Consequently, as she gets older, she may have struggles with intimacy and trusting that someone will really be emotionally and physically there for her.” But what do you guys think about this situation? Share your thoughts below!
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